Coming soon to the private area, I will be writing a private message.
New Update: Photos and writings.
I just wanted to let members know that we have been migrating the website recently, and I am aware of the technical problems members have been having with videos. This problem, thankfully, will be resolved soon. Thank you.
Watch Me use men as workout implements to serve the greater good: My Beauty. These videos are available on the private side of My site. Log in or join now to see Me use men in a variety of useful and interesting ways. 🙂
I’m going to be writing a blog about an ending conversation I had with a former slave of Mine. It’s a personal matter relating to his struggles with living life as a cross dresser while trying to manage his interpersonal relationships. Having a number of failed relationships with Women unable/unwilling to find comfort and compatibility with cross dressers, he remained alone for a great number of years – too many years. It’s a lonely life for some CD’s particularly when the internal urges for cross dressing are so strong they get in the way of finding an intimate partner to share life.
I may post it to the inside of My site as it’s very personal.
If there are any cross dressing members of Mine looking for an Owner, give Me a call to discuss. You don’t have to be featured on the site if you are private. My former sissy slave was private as well. That said, you do have to be on the older side; I find older men more in touch with themselves. Older than 35.
Our site is temporarily under construction. It will be down for 24 hours. Thank you! 🙂
New Video and Writing entitled: “Annoyed Mistress-Slave Bench Workout” is available in the Private Journal of the Member AreaMarch 29th, 2019
New Video and Writing entitled: “Slave Punishment – Cat Litter” is available in the Private Journal of the Member Area.March 22nd, 2019
A Mistress will not allow Her males to think they can get away with transgressions. We own you. This isn’t about playful foregone conclusions or notions of equality. This isn’t about bedroom games. This is about slavery to Female Keepers in a Female-led household under the mantle of Female supremacy and all powers it gives Women within it. (More inside)
This video and writing is about My slave’s wretched attitude during his “slave critique” last week.
Snippet of issue between Mistress and slave:
“…… Going along resentfully humble and obedient is the minimal bar for a man to reach in his servitude. And it’s the surest way to erode the dynamics of Mistress and slave.
He may not at all times enjoy slavery, including times when his ego may be bruised from hearing things about himself he doesn’t want to avow.
But he must accept every part of slavery given his status to his Mistress and his destiny in life.
But truthfully speaking, men can and should learn to let go of their egos and defenses if they want to live the life of a slave, for it is not enough to grudgingly concede to things that make his Mistress happy.
That misses the entire point of serving Her in the first place.”
New Video and Writing entitled: “Troublesome Slave” is available in the Private Journal of the Member Area.February 15th, 2019
Ego and slavery are mutually exclusive.
Snippet from video update:
Standing before Me, slightly bent forward in an imperceptibly
cringing attitude, he was nothing but a receptacle,
a hollow shell, impassive, expressionless.
Since at the moment it was receiving no input from My will,
it remained motionless, hanging.
Not only passive, but non-existent.
And for a prolonged instant I kept looking down with a
satisfaction at that creature that was not quite a person anymore.
Instead had become an extension of Myself, as some robotic arm
directly wired to My brain.
Yet with the same empowerment and expendability as a machine.
I could discipline it, use it and exploit its toil and it would keep going
mindlessly no matter how painfully, until broken down.
New Photos and Writing entitled: “Slave Bondage” is available in the Private Journal of the Member Area.February 4th, 2019
Nothing looks sexier on a man than black, leather cuffs.
He’s feeling vulnerable, not knowing what Her intentions are.
He quivers. She smiles.
He wants to grovel and beg Her for mercy.
She knows he’s desperate to please Her.
She has the power and She holds it over his head.
BDSM play is fun and it doesn’t matter if you submit only sexually— so long as you’re honest about it.
Entering into consensual slavery is different from engaging in BDSM play.
There are plenty of people who engage in sexy role-play and creative bedroom games.
My contention is the lack of self-awareness displayed by some who decide to enter into consensual slavery.
“Those” meaning persons who pretend to be something they’re really not.
That said, this is different from a newbie who is sure to make unintentional mistakes.
(More inside and video regarding this issue to follow.)
New Writing and Video entitled: On Financial Domination is available in the Private Journal of the Member Area.January 16th, 2019
New writing and video update: “On Financial Domination”.
Money is power and pleasure; it is influential, sexual and so many other things. The act of monetary tithing is both symbolic and concrete; it is a proxy for a man’s will to please.
New Audio with video entitled “A Slave’s Limit” is now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.January 4th, 2019
Pushing a slave beyond his limit reminds him of his place in the greater tapestry of life: that his lot is to serve, to labor and to suffer for Females —even in ways he may or may not like. Thus is the beauty of slavery!
New Writing and Photos entitled “50 Shades of Sensation Play” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.December 17th, 2018
I have about 10 Female members registered to My site. One of them called Me on niteflirt. She and I hit it off so well, we’ve been talking to one another weekly. We may meet up on New Year’s Eve in Amsterdam. Anyway, She asked if I would tell Her what sorts of sensual rewards I can recommend She do with Her husband. They do not practice a BDSM lifestyle but She is dominant in the bedroom. I will make a video this weekend on one of the rewards I give My slaves for their good behavior. It’s sexy and erotic, and can be enjoyed by vanilla couples who want to dabble in bondage, teasing and sensation play. Stay tuned! 🙂
New Writing and Video entitled “Punish the Animal” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.December 4th, 2018
After Thanksgiving dinner and before dessert, I decided to paddle My slave for a recent transgression. You can view his punishment in this video update. As he is disciplined for his unruly behavior, hear one of My standard lectures that accompanies his punishment. Punishment always comes with verbal discourse. As you can tell, I enjoy lecturing My slaves, even when I am not gracing them with discipline.
New video update! Sometimes a hard working slave deserves a reward! Rewards must not become an expected thing among slaves, however; they must always be received in gratitude.
So cool! Just over 8,000 light years away from Earth! Picture by: NSA.
New Writing and Video entitled “Vote 2018” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.October 27th, 2018
This video update is for My American boys. 🙂 Vote in the 2018, November 6 Mid-term elections.
New hypnosis video for My internet slaves in the USA . Have fun with it, and DO as I Command!
New Writing and Video entitled “Mental Conditioning” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.October 16th, 2018
Ladies, when males call My niteflirt phone line I tell them how it is. And you should too, in your own way. Males love to hear how a Mistress will force them into slavery. I tell them: Work so I get paid. Clean My house while I fine dine with My Girlfriends. Crawl and slither while I sit comfortably. Sweat and labor while I smirk sadistically. Embed these dictates into their reptilian brains and they will be addicted to you for eternity! Don’t hesitate to lecture them on how you expect to use them. And mean every word of it. Don’t do it for them because that’s what you think they want you to say. Own it. Mean it. See him as the utility animal that he is. See him as the slave he was born to be. Make no apologies. Grace him with your generosity by using him as you see fit. Your cruel confidence will make his nut sac tingle. He wants to demonstrate his desperation. A true blue slave will give anything to experience your elegant enjoyment of his submission. Take advantage of his addiction.
Make it fun and sexy!
And while you’re at it, make a hypnosis audio for him to listen to as he slaves away for you, as I did in this video update.
New Writing and Video entitled “Mindlessness” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.September 26th, 2018
New writing and video update: “Mindlessness”.
I want My slave to be reliable in his obedience. When he fails Me, his transgression must not go unanswered, lest it erode the structure of the relationship. Female-led relationships mirror traditional forms of relationships: they are in a perpetual state of work and progress. While disciplining a slave isn’t always fun, it reminds them what it means to be obedient, to be a slave in spirit, heart and mind.
New Writings and Photos entitled “Just Like a Dog” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.September 13th, 2018
New photos and writing update: “Just Like a Dog”.
I would like to make all readers aware that I have an opening for a submissive male who, by all counts, is authentically submissive and truly appreciates Women. I’m taking on a new protege, whom I am guiding in the arts of Female Dominance, therefore I am seeking a male who wishes to serve as a subject for this training. This male will be interacting with both Her and Myself.
The start date is approaching soon as She turns 19 years of age. The vetting process will take a few months, therefore I am starting now. Understand that this position will involve many responsibilities, not only to Her, but to Me, especially in the beginning. You must be open to being shown on My site, in photos and videos. If you pass muster, you may be able to stay on as Her servant.
Requirements are as follows:
1. Be 18-30 years of age. This is negotiable if you are older but look younger for your age.
2. Own a car.
3. Able to speak with Me on the call service Niteflirt.com, so I may vet you initially by voice conversation. We will discuss more details at that time.
4. Must be open to being viewed on My website (no requests for face blurring, face masks, etc.).
5. Must be single.
6. Must be seriously looking for a Mistress.
7. Must actually be submissive and desire a Female-led relationship.
If you have no experience as a slave, that may not be a hindrance. If I like you and sense you have the intellectual makings of a slave, (and of course there is mutual chemistry between you and Her) you will be trained. As you know, Female-led relationships, like vanilla relationships, boil down to physical and emotional chemistry.
Contact Me via Niteflirt: hearing your voice is a mandatory, first step. My lines will be turned on tomorrow.
Ps. I will be available to speak with potential sissy slaves as well. See this blog entry https://saharaheve.com/public/2018/06/23/misunderstood-the-unconventional-world-of-autogynephiles/ Give Me a call, Girlfriend! 😉
New Writing and Photos entitled “At Our Feet” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.August 31st, 2018
New photos and writing update: “At Our Feet”.
New Instructive, Hypnotic Masturbation Audio/Video entitled “You Want To Be Used” is now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.August 21st, 2018
New hypnotic masturbation audio/video update: You Want To Be Used.
To My future slaves, inside you will find your instructions…
New Audio Training and Video entitled “Worship the Well Spring of Life” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.August 6th, 2018
New audio training and video update: Worship The Well Spring of Life.
Why must you worship the Female? I’ll tell you why!
New Writing and Photos entitled “Morning Paddle” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.July 20th, 2018
New photos update: Morning Paddle:
Have a nice weekend!
New Writing and Photos entitled “Morning Rituals” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.July 14th, 2018
New photos update: Morning Rituals:
Good morning My lovies! Here’s a glimpse of how My mornings flow each day. (Photos inside are larger.) It’s simple, varies slightly depending on My mood. I know a lot of you boys love foot worship, so I will make new morning ritual foot worship photos or video tomorrow!
Have a great weekend. 🙂
New writing and video update: Sun Goddesses.
I’m of the opinion that every Woman should know what it feels like to use a slave at least once in Her life. But to be more to the point, I believe every Woman should have a slave of Her own, as a birthright. Our bodies are designed to create life. A man’s body is designed for physical work. He doesn’t create life: he serves it. And what greater thing to serve than the very giver of life: a Female. The romantic male hero is self-deprecating, servile, and risks everything for the Lady, the Princess, or the Femme Fatale. The Female is the source of life from which the derivative and parasitic male emerges. Wombless, his breasts are dry: he is no muse, nor is he pursued by virtue of his existence. Men must strive to build from themselves something worthy. He is the sweet dog at Her feet, with his eyes beaming in admiration, begging for an order, a task to make Her happy, or the serpent in Her garden, wrapping around Her legs, obsessed with the portal that bore him into the world—seeking to penetrate it and renew himself somehow within. Man is nothing but a construct: a hollow tool designed for a particular purpose: to serve and please his Goddess, and honor and empower all Females alike.
When our sexual tastes aren’t perfectly aligned with what society allows us to enjoy, the bar of difficulty in finding someone to love, and one that will be receptive to that love, rises substantially higher. There are some men who, despite their sexual orientations, enjoy imitating Women, and this act of transformation is self-arousing. Men with this form of cross-dressing fetish engage in what is called “autogynephilia,” and it’s one of the hardest things they endure in the attempt to be accepted in intimate relationships. Autogynephilia’s Greek translation is “love of oneself as a Woman,” and is a term coined in 1989 by Dr. Raymond Blanchard to refer to a man’s tendency to be sexually aroused by the image of himself as a Woman.
We live in a world that is widely sensational and ill-informed, and because of this, a great deal of ignorance exists regarding men with these preferences. The first (and perhaps most obvious) misconception is that such men must be homosexual. The simple fact of a male finding arousal in seeing himself as a Female doesn’t necessarily mean he’s sexually oriented toward males: many are heterosexual and still desire a relationship with a Woman. Therein lies the rub: a man coming to terms with this reality often finds himself severely stereotyped. If he’s too open about it— there will likely be a price paid for that openness, and one that will, in all likelihood, be paid through distress, isolation, and depression. Because of this, he’ll usually retreat into the security of conventional relationships and sanctioned sexual expressions allotted to his sex, or the auspices of these things, in the very least. He’ll marry a Woman and secret away his underlying urges under the naive yet prevailing logic that he can hide it all. But as Phillip K. Dick once wrote, Reality denied comes back to haunt. What is pushed underground eventually finds its way up into in the picturesque world of normalcy, slowly infecting its waters with angst and frustration. Perhaps a man in this situation thinks he can vent his desires secretly beyond the knowledge of his Wife, but this is a fool’s errand: sooner or later, the Wife, having lived with him under the terminal assumption of his normalcy, discovers the truth. His secrets are often not well understood or accepted especially when found out this way. In fact, the truth of his entire person may very well come under question, and She’s justified in that, if he’s conspired to hide something so important to him from Her knowledge.
But this is often how it goes. Often, autogynephiles are stereotyped. Most think they are all the same: that they are perverts, predators, inverted misogynists, or just generally unwell—but this is far from the truth. Some do project a sort of inner misogyny as sometimes seen in the FemDom world. But many have a genuine love for Women and honor them. And so it’s not so smart to paint all men who enjoy seeing themselves as Women as negative: as with most things in life, there is a variety of different types, with different motives and dispositions.
Having been served by such men before, I’ve decided to open My arms to one more again. I’m looking for a male who eroticizes femininity as a part of who he is, though he is not defined by this fetish. He must have a deep love and respect for Women and wishes to enter into a Female-led relationship: with one Woman, long-term. But I’m not looking simply for a fetishist. I want to make that crystal clear. I’m not the type of Woman who offers “sessions” by the hour, nor do I ever open My door to excessive prurience. I’m not into debauchery and cuckholding/swingers type of entertainment. I’m looking for a man who will adore Me and who wants a real relationship with a Woman. He needs to be healthy of mind and body, not weighed down with narcissism. Autogynephiles can be very self-absorbed; you must be different. You must understand what mature love is and how it differs from needy love.
In short, I want a full, broadband human being, not one who sees Me as some sort of one-dimensional image before which he unloads his fetishes. Further, he is at peace with himself, not taxed by “dysphoria” or delusional notions that he is a woman. His penchant to reflect Feminine forms within himself neither invalidates nor encroaches upon his respect for Women.
Compatibility is important too— just as it is in all other types of relationships. He understands that relationships are forged in chemistry. Mutual priorities and similar likings alone are not enough to sustain a relationship, though. Centering the relationship around the man’s fetish also isn’t what I’m wanting to do. This union will be about serving Me as the true embodiment of the Feminine Divine, with the man as a worshipful adherent to Feminine joys and aesthetics. His desire to transform himself will be indulged but in service to and honor of the Female, and Myself.
What other qualities do I seek?
1. His fetishes don’t consume him.
2. He bows before Women in gratitude, recognizing them as inspiration to what propels him internally, knowing he could never be a Female, but strives to embody the Feminine in his worship, all the same.
3. He understands and accepts that fundamentally he’s still male and won’t allow the lines to blur.
4. He is older. Younger men don’t have the wisdom I seek: they are still evolving. It takes time for males to come to terms with these drives and to know how to properly manifest them.
5. He knows that being exposed and feeling vulnerable in the right hands is a difficult gift to find. He cherishes it.
6. He’ll value a relationship with the right Woman, and so he will be grateful and attentive toward making it work.
7. He enjoys traveling the world, and his career permits him to travel at least twice a year.
What I’m NOT looking for:
1. Career fetishists and casual BDSM types. I have nothing against BDSM but it attracts a fair sum of prurient hedonists more in love with acts than the essence of a deep, meaningful relationships.
2. Anyone overly sexual and preoccupied with their fantasies to the exclusion of deeper sincerity.
3. Cuckholds who are simply looking for bisexual hijinks. Again, strict focus on fetishes is not what I’m after. My dominance is real but it’s organic and is expressed how I desire. I don’t and won’t follow a man’s scripts and psycho dramatics.
If you think you have all the qualities I seek, I welcome your introductory message. Be prepared for a lengthy vet. Live between the coasts of New Jersey and New Hampshire. Please be between the ages of 38-58.
You may call Me on Niteflirt or write Me on Fetlife, if you wish — starting July 1, 2018. I may add an email to this blog to use as well.
Below are links to help males (and the Women who love them) who may want to better understand Autogynephilia.
New Writing and Video entitled “Woeful Negligence” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.June 14th, 2018
New writing and video update: Woeful Negligence.
Among the more dubious reasons for incompetence or outright failure of an assigned task is the oft-used excuse of “forgetfulness.” Often, it’s not so much the case that it slipped the slave’s memory, if we are to be honest and frank about such things: it’s instead an easy and affordable defense. Regarding the failure at hand, My slave didn’t choose to make My wishes a priority, due to his apparent laziness and lack of care. He got a little too comfortable and familiar with Me—something that happens to some slaves when they begin taking their Mistresses for granted. All relationships take work. Each has its failings from time to time, but the bar in a Mistress and slave relationship is set exceedingly high by design. One cannot ever rest upon his laurels in this arrangement. Doing so is unwise, for the slave will most certainly pay a price for his lack of mindfulness. If getting lazy is reckless in a common egalitarian relationship: how much more so is it in Mistress and slave relationship? What should the repercussions be? I have every right to be furious at My slave for not fulfilling My commands, and so punishment came fast and hard. In My annoyance over his absolute failure to please, I start to wonder if I need to punish him like this weekly, just to clear the air on where his attentions should most precisely be. I don’t mind providing maintenance corporeal punishments, if they are productive.
How many of you have grand and/or great-grand parents? Or, how many of you have neighbors who are elderly and live alone? Did you know that the elderly suffer from social loneliness and isolation, and according to the AARP, the numbers are increasing. It’s easy to forget that elderly persons’ lives are very much static and stationary. They’re not going shopping, to the park and beach, nor are they having dinner with friends, traveling or seeing shows. Any many rarely have enough family members who visit them regularly. Have you ever stopped to consider what it’s like to not see anyone for days? Event the most reclusive, proud-to-be-a-loner person would miss seeing another human’s face after some time.
Loneliness is bad for our health in the same way that stress is. If you know an elderly person who lives alone, consider paying them a visit— a real visit, spending a few hours with them. Short, quick-stop visits (think of visiting nurses) do not count toward anything meaningful. Studies have been done that found a link between loneliness and inflammation, Altermizers, stroke, and insomnia.
Ways to help the elderly in your life or community:
Make transportation available, promote a sense of purpose, give a senior something to take care of, help them with adaptive technologies, visit and talk to neighbors and connect them with a local church or synagogue. See more here https://www.aplaceformom.com/blog/help-seniors-avoid-social-isolation-8-14-2014/
Happy Gay Pride! Come celebrate Gay Pride with My brother, his partner and Myself. We’ll be in NYC for two weeks. On June 18th, we’ll be at the LGBT Community Center’s Garden Party on Pier 84 (Hudson River Park) for the taste of New York City! I’ll be wearing a black dress with red roses. Come say “hello”. We’ll be there at 6:30 P.M.