New Blog Updates: Lingerie Party and Slave Mantra Hypnosis Audio in the Private Journal of the Member AreaFebruary 27th, 2017
New Photos Update entitled “Quickie” is now available within the Private Journal Page of the Member AreaFebruary 16th, 2017
New Photos Update.
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Ps. Coming: New blog writing regarding loneliness and how it relates to Submissive men. It’s a spin off of My earlier post regarding general loneliness.
The only Woman Prince could not forget.
Mistresses love to send teaser clips to further torture their “seed-retaining” long-distance slaves! Here’s a snippet.
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New Video Update entitled “Ouch Ouch: Tease-Deny and Ball Smash” is now available within the Private Journal Page of the Member Area.February 10th, 2017
New Video Update.
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I wrote this entry yesterday for some of My members who say they suffer from loneliness.
There’s a myriad of reasons for loneliness, but one thing is certain: it’s bad for your health. Loneliness can lead to physical problems, alcoholism, depression and permanent social disconnect. Anyone can suffer from loneliness, even famous people surrounded by an entourage of “friends” because loneliness is about feeling sad over social disconnect and isolation.
Over time, the feeling of disconnectedness can lead to “social evasion”. Social evasion is a fight or flight response— a physiological reaction to a perceived threat. Over time lonely people become defensive and develop an overall feeling of mistrust for almost everyone— leading to further isolation.
Loneliness can be circumstantial or chronic. Circumstantial loneliness stems from temporary, situational circumstances, e.g., death, divorce, a move.
Chronic loneliness arises over a period of time and can stem from either past abuse or neglect, varying forms of mental illnesses, or drug and alcohol abuse. Chronic loneliness is not so easily overcome. Which brings Me to the main issue of this entry. Overcoming loneliness. What are the solutions?
The remedies for circumstantial loneliness are abundant: check city’s Town Hall and/or Library for local community groups; join a bookstore reading club, gym, riding club, golf club or even a church.
But what about those who suffer from chronic loneliness—those who have difficulty making connections? Joining a group and being surrounded by people is the last thing they want to do. So what can they do? Social media connections don’t help much. Studies show social media can cause some isolated people to feel more isolated. One caveat, however, is joining online communities for lonely/socially isolated people. I’ve lurked around a few of these communities for a while trying to better understand their experiences. Surprisingly I’ve seen quite a number of relationships form within these forums. These communities bring together like-minded people. As members share their experiences, other members find others whom they feel share a similar story. We tend to trust and bond with those whom we feel are similar to us and whom we feel can empathize with our realties. These types of communities offer this chance.
“But since everything like and akin to oneself is pleasant, and since every man is himself more like and akin to himself than any one else is, it follows that all of us must be more or less fond of ourselves…That is why we are usually fond of our flatterers, [our lovers,] and honour; also of our children, for our children are our own work.”
Becoming a volunteer can also help alleviate loneliness. Serving others is a great way to forget about oneself. And, it fosters a sense of gratitude. Having a sense of gratitude is like homemade medicine. In gratitude, there’s no room for longing.
So those are My two solutions for chronic loneliness: joining community forums for loneliness/social isolation, and volunteering. Of course, there are also pharmaceutical and cognitive therapies for loneliness, especially when associated with mental health issues.
I hope some of this helps.
Not meant to be taken at face value. Just get up and dance, mkay? 😉
New Blog and Photo entitled "Just Kink? My Conversations with Vanilla-Kink Submissives" is now available within the Private Journal Page of the Member AreaFebruary 3rd, 2017
New Blog Writing and Photo in the Private Journal.
What’s vanilla-kink? I’ll first tell you what it’s not. It’s not heavy bondage (B). It’s not heavy discipline (D). It’s not heavy sadism (S). It’s not heavy masochism (M).
You’re beginning to get the picture? 😉
“Vanilla-Kink” is “BDSM-light”, or “Pop-Culture” kink, i.e., it’s a soft version of BDSM: blind folds, light bondage (handcuffs, etc), light pain (candle wax, spanking), anal sex, role-play (the mean teacher/naughty student; the perverted, deranged doctor, etc). Vanilla-Kink is a lot more popular than both hardcore BDSM, and even consensual slavery within a Female-led relationship w/ a twist of BDSM (yours truly). 😉
What distinguishes vanilla-kink from consensual slavery? Power dynamics outside of the bedroom.
For the vanilla-kink submissive male, BDSM is light and temporary; his “submission” ends when the lights come on. He’s a male who wants a vanilla Woman in the day; and a dark, domineering Diva at night. His “submission” is erotized in that it is her sex, not her “Person”, that inspires his submission.
For the slave, on the other hand, his submission extends beyond fantasy-fulfillment. He doesn’t want a Woman whose dominance is compartmentalized to the bedroom; he yearns for a Woman to command him beyond the sheets. He wants to live for something beyond himself. He wants a reason to toil and work hard and he wants Her to be that reason.
Vanilla-kink submissives who call Me often despair at the difficulty in finding a Woman to fulfill their submissive fantasies. If he doesn’t want to hire a professional Mistress (aka: Top/Dominatrix/Domina) he’s stuck with having to find a vanilla Woman who’s sexually turned on by top-serving him in the bedroom. (A “Top” is one who gives pleasure to the other— the “Receiver”, or, “Bottom”.) If he has a partner already, it’s possible he could use persuasion, hoping that “love” will inspire her to top him. (I’ve offered successful advice for how to broach this subject with a partner. Sometimes it works; sometimes it doesn’t.) That being said, it’s likely to feel sterile and mechanical if the desire to do this is not authentic.
Anyway, read My advice to My single, vanilla-kink submissives inside in the Private Journal of the Member Area. The solution I offer will shock you. It’s a simple solution and one that’s very contrary to what you’d expect.
Have a great weekend!