What Draws Men Into Submission

July 31st, 2016

New blog writing entitled: What Draws Men Into Submission is available in the private Member Area.
[Snippet] “I would call the above “emotional servility”: to relish the very despotism that crushes one to ever more abject subservience. There is no denying it, servants need to feel the yoke on their necks. It legitimizes their existences.” [/Snippet]
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Always a Slave, Never a Pet

July 27th, 2016

There are slaves. And there are subs (pets).
The servant is not a pet and does not wish to become one.
It is the sub who is a pet.  He gains entrance in the Keeper’s realm as a pet. He wants to be dommed, but as a good doggy.  He’s always trading his submission and devotion for something in return.  He wants to gain affection, recognition, and to slowly conquer space and importance.  As a pet, he develops an affection relationship and gets ever more demanding and jealous.
That said, the servant humbly accepts to be kept low to the ground.  Instinctively, even though servitude is hard and oppressive -and it is!- he welcomes it because it keeps him at his right place.  If he were allowed to gain too much attention and care he might become a pet, and his servantry would dilute and fade imperceptibly.  He would eventually get lost in the growing schism between his servantry and the affectionate and possessive relationship that would develop with his Keeper.
That’s why I usually prefer to compare the servant to a horse and not a dog.  A horse loves his Keeper.  He loves when She murmurs words to his ear.  He loves when She pats him possessively.  He is happy and welcomes Her when She comes to use him and mount him.  But he humbly accepts to be led back to his stable.  He doesn’t want to get into the house, to leap on a sofa and make it his reserved territory and not let anyone sit on it.  He doesn’t howl and bark for hours because His Keeper has left him for the day.  He doesn’t always whine for more attention. He is not always jealous.
The horse will always be a humble servant.  The dog will always be a demanding sub, eternally trying to top from the bottom.
I don’t mean that to imply that a special attitude is expected from the Keeper.  It’s not that there is a recipe which the servant must be whipped and degraded on a set pattern.  It all subtly depends on who the Keeper is.  A Keeper can use a servant for whatever She needs him—even to have dinner, make love to him, or go to sleep in his arms when She feels like it.  It’s something in Her attitude that will always let the servant know that whatever She might be demanding of him, his place will always remain in the stable.  And, he will never hold property on the couch in the living room or on Her bed, lol.
There’s the same difference between subby players and servants as there is between Women who were born Keepers, and others who want to play at dominating, simply seeking fun in a game that could evolve into a vanilla relationship.  The born Keeper might fancy treating a servant like a lover or go out with him as She would with a friend but there will be this certain something in Her that will leave no room for ambiguity.  She will always be the Keeper and he the servant.  Whatever She does, there will be no doubt She is using Her servant because of Her own whim of the moment, knowing the servant will have to bend and adapt to it.  Conversely, the player Domme will remain in a complacent relationship based on trading, and she will be concerned with Her hubby-sub’s expectations.
never a pet aways a servant
 

Tolerance

July 26th, 2016

Resolve to be tender with the young,

compassionate with the aged,

sympathetic with the striving, and

tolerant of the weak and the wrong.

Sometimes in life you will have been all of these.

~ Lloyd Shearer

Mainstream Commercial: Sexy FemDom with Her Pain-Loving Husband

July 26th, 2016

Nice to see FemDom in mainstream culture!  Despotic FemDom Wife certainly has a pain-slut hubby!