We spoke awhile back and I was a member of your site for a while. Have been into Female Supremacy for a long time and am in agreement with your very articulate opinions.
For highly complex reasons, humiliation is a sexual turn on for me. Am struggling with whether it is possible to be submissive and at the same time not be a “loser”. Are the men you are having eat out of dog dishes and engaging in masturbation contests losers?
Obviously, I can’t speak for all dominant Females, but I will say this is a very common idea produced from very common thinking. I just recently had to address this misconception with an admirer who assumed those who serve Me are weak and pathetic. Slavery—true slavery, true sacrifice, by will alone—isn’t sought by the weak. Those men who seek to serve are courageous and passionate men who place themselves under My heel to be crushed and molded. They give themselves up, along with their male ego, to be humiliated, debased, used and exploited. Let’s see your average garden variety tough guy on the football team suffer a day of that for a Woman. This isn’t to say My slaves aren’t pathetic, groveling, weak and hopelessly obedient, loving puppets for Me (they definitely are!), but that is a far cry from being a capital L “loser” in general. Why would I want a worthless and useless person who has nothing to offer? What is there to be gained from that? I want useful, passionate worshipers who believe in what I believe, not useless scum from the bottom of the barrel.
I am a submissive male who wishes to serve a dominant Female. The most ideal Woman would be one who believes in Female Supremacy. I haven’t had a lot of luck attracting the interest of a Mistress. I’ve been on collarme.com, fetlife.com, bondage.com, facebook.com and so on and so forth for years. I’ve tried contacting the Women who have interested me, but they seldom write back. When they do I hardly ever get past the first round. What could I be doing wrong? I would be lying to say I haven’t wanted to serve you. In fact, I wrote to you two months ago and never got a reply. Do you have any advice for me (and others) who are looking to be owned by a Woman like Yourself? Are there just too many indians and not enough Goddesses to go around?
I definitely understand the frustration you’re feeling. I hear this from many men. One thing to remember about the so-called supply and demand thing is this: though it may seem that there are many submissive men compared to dominant Women, in reality, both types are more scarce than we are led to believe. This means both dominant Women and submissive men who make this part of their “lifestyle” and life philosophy are few and far between. More than half the so-called “dominas” one sees on the web are little more than fanciful illusions, custom-built around the industry of male fetish. An even greater number of so-called “submissive men” are little more than bottoms, sensation tourists and johns jonesing to feed their fetishes.
That said, I would invite you to reflect upon how daunting it is for a Woman looking for the real deal to sift through the mountains of queries they get on a daily basis just to find a single gem. There is so much “average joe” out there that it gets a little disheartening, and before long, inboxes are abandoned in favor of other more worthy pursuits (like filing nails or playing Jenga). But really, in all seriousness, we dominant Females have heard it all before, and our eyes glaze over with the cliché opening lines and flowery prose we receive from would-be servants. The odds are already quite stacked against you in trying to stand out among the masses, but you’ll have to try your best.
Before you start down that path again, however, reflect inward and ask yourself this one fundamental question: are you really—truly—submissive? That may seem like an obvious question to ask, but it’s 90% of the reason why men claiming to be so never get off the ground in the first place. In submission there is reverence and enthusiasm to please, to go the extra mile, to think beyond oneself and consider what will please the object of their admiration / affection. A man who cannot or will not do this is fairly easy to spot, based upon his actions or lack thereof. I suppose it can be faked for a little while, but the illusion can never be maintained. You either have it in you to serve or you do not.
As for the remaining 10%, it all comes down to what you as a submissive man have to offer, and how you package up what you have to offer. Is your life in order? Are you employed? Are you in shape? Are you thoughtful? Imaginative? Generous? Respectful? Tasteful? Positive? Considerate? And more importantly, HUMBLE? Do you have what it takes to go the extra mile in making a concerted effort to be seen? Do you have integrity and honor? Hopefully you can answer all these questions with a “yes”. If so, it’s only a matter of time before you attract the passing attention of an alpha Female, and when you get that chance, don’t blow it by being stingy, lazy or so negative that you are self-defeating. Make yourself a source of pleasure for Her. Give without conditions. Become resourceful for Her and put your energies into Her betterment and gain. Do all this, but don’t do it at all if it will be half-hearted. She’s likely smart enough to know the difference. To put it simply, think of your submission in terms of the familiar computer science phrase, garbage in, garbage out. You get out of the experience what you put into it.
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A recent Happy Valentine’s Day e-card gave Me a little laugh; Carlo, My faithful admirer from Italy, sent Me just the sort of iconography I tend to love associated with men. How could he have known I would find the gesture so delightful? 😉
Please ignore the broken English, readers; I have assured him that if he does find his way to serving Me in the flesh, there will be no need for him to speak often anyway. I personally think this proves a man looks good as a dog; I would crop the ears, though.