There are slaves. And there are subs (pets).
The servant is not a pet and does not wish to become one.
It is the sub who is a pet. He gains entrance in the Keeper’s realm as a pet. He wants to be dommed, but as a good doggy. He’s always trading his submission and devotion for something in return. He wants to gain affection, recognition, and to slowly conquer space and importance. As a pet, he develops an affection relationship and gets ever more demanding and jealous.
That said, the servant humbly accepts to be kept low to the ground. Instinctively, even though servitude is hard and oppressive -and it is!- he welcomes it because it keeps him at his right place. If he were allowed to gain too much attention and care he might become a pet, and his servantry would dilute and fade imperceptibly. He would eventually get lost in the growing schism between his servantry and the affectionate and possessive relationship that would develop with his Keeper.
That’s why I usually prefer to compare the servant to a horse and not a dog. A horse loves his Keeper. He loves when She murmurs words to his ear. He loves when She pats him possessively. He is happy and welcomes Her when She comes to use him and mount him. But he humbly accepts to be led back to his stable. He doesn’t want to get into the house, to leap on a sofa and make it his reserved territory and not let anyone sit on it. He doesn’t howl and bark for hours because His Keeper has left him for the day. He doesn’t always whine for more attention. He is not always jealous.
The horse will always be a humble servant. The dog will always be a demanding sub, eternally trying to top from the bottom.
I don’t mean that to imply that a special attitude is expected from the Keeper. It’s not that there is a recipe which the servant must be whipped and degraded on a set pattern. It all subtly depends on who the Keeper is. A Keeper can use a servant for whatever She needs him—even to have dinner, make love to him, or go to sleep in his arms when She feels like it. It’s something in Her attitude that will always let the servant know that whatever She might be demanding of him, his place will always remain in the stable. And, he will never hold property on the couch in the living room or on Her bed, lol.
There’s the same difference between subby players and servants as there is between Women who were born Keepers, and others who want to play at dominating, simply seeking fun in a game that could evolve into a vanilla relationship. The born Keeper might fancy treating a servant like a lover or go out with him as She would with a friend but there will be this certain something in Her that will leave no room for ambiguity. She will always be the Keeper and he the servant. Whatever She does, there will be no doubt She is using Her servant because of Her own whim of the moment, knowing the servant will have to bend and adapt to it. Conversely, the player Domme will remain in a complacent relationship based on trading, and she will be concerned with Her hubby-sub’s expectations.
There are slaves. And there are subs (pets).
“Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone.” – Alan Watts.
How do you get out of depression?
How do you get out of your own mind?
How do you stop the mental chatter?
You don’t spend enough feeling.
The mind is on over-drive.
Thoughts are creating anxiety.
What do you do with this feeling of emptiness?
A note inside, to My some of My callers…
New Video entitled: Just Eat It. (Poor male)
New Audio Clip entitled: “Under Her Heels“
New Photos entitled: “Under Her Heels“
We’re currently updating the way videos are presented on the website. In the coming months, we’ll be going through the old formats and refreshing their code, making them compatible with the new system being used. Please bear with Me as this process unfolds. Some videos may not work temporarily or links will appear broken, but I hope to have this all resolved as soon as I can.
I wrote this entry yesterday for some of My members who say they suffer from loneliness.
There’s a myriad of reasons for loneliness, but one thing is certain: it’s bad for your health. Loneliness can lead to physical problems, alcoholism, depression and permanent social disconnect. Anyone can suffer from loneliness, even famous people surrounded by an entourage of “friends” because loneliness is about feeling sad over social disconnect and isolation.
Over time, the feeling of disconnectedness can lead to “social evasion”. Social evasion is a fight or flight response— a physiological reaction to a perceived threat. Over time lonely people become defensive and develop an overall feeling of mistrust for almost everyone— leading to further isolation.
Loneliness can be circumstantial or chronic. Circumstantial loneliness stems from temporary, situational circumstances, e.g., death, divorce, a move.
Chronic loneliness arises over a period of time and can stem from either past abuse or neglect, varying forms of mental illnesses, or drug and alcohol abuse. Chronic loneliness is not so easily overcome. Which brings Me to the main issue of this entry. Overcoming loneliness. What are the solutions?
The remedies for circumstantial loneliness are abundant: check city’s Town Hall and/or Library for local community groups; join a bookstore reading club, gym, riding club, golf club or even a church.
But what about those who suffer from chronic loneliness—those who have difficulty making connections? Joining a group and being surrounded by people is the last thing they want to do. So what can they do? Social media connections don’t help much. Studies show social media can cause some isolated people to feel more isolated. One caveat, however, is joining online communities for lonely/socially isolated people. I’ve lurked around a few of these communities for a while trying to better understand their experiences. Surprisingly I’ve seen quite a number of relationships form within these forums. These communities bring together like-minded people. As members share their experiences, other members find others whom they feel share a similar story. We tend to trust and bond with those whom we feel are similar to us and whom we feel can empathize with our realties. These types of communities offer this chance.
“But since everything like and akin to oneself is pleasant, and since every man is himself more like and akin to himself than any one else is, it follows that all of us must be more or less fond of ourselves…That is why we are usually fond of our flatterers, [our lovers,] and honour; also of our children, for our children are our own work.”
Becoming a volunteer can also help alleviate loneliness. Serving others is a great way to forget about oneself. And, it fosters a sense of gratitude. Having a sense of gratitude is like homemade medicine. In gratitude, there’s no room for longing.
So those are My two solutions for chronic loneliness: joining community forums for loneliness/social isolation, and volunteering. Of course, there are also pharmaceutical and cognitive therapies for loneliness, especially when associated with mental health issues.
I hope some of this helps.
Coming soon to the private area, I will be writing a private message.
New Update: Photos and writings.
I just wanted to let members know that we have been migrating the website recently, and I am aware of the technical problems members have been having with videos. This problem, thankfully, will be resolved soon. Thank you.
Watch Me use men as workout implements to serve the greater good: My Beauty. These videos are available on the private side of My site. Log in or join now to see Me use men in a variety of useful and interesting ways. 🙂
I’m going to be writing a blog about an ending conversation I had with a former slave of Mine. It’s a personal matter relating to his struggles with living life as a cross dresser while trying to manage his interpersonal relationships. Having a number of failed relationships with Women unable/unwilling to find comfort and compatibility with cross dressers, he remained alone for a great number of years – too many years. It’s a lonely life for some CD’s particularly when the internal urges for cross dressing are so strong they get in the way of finding an intimate partner to share life.
I may post it to the inside of My site as it’s very personal.
If there are any cross dressing members of Mine looking for an Owner, give Me a call to discuss. You don’t have to be featured on the site if you are private. My former sissy slave was private as well. That said, you do have to be on the older side; I find older men more in touch with themselves. Older than 35.
Our site is temporarily under construction. It will be down for 24 hours. Thank you! 🙂
New Video and Writing entitled: “Annoyed Mistress-Slave Bench Workout” is available in the Private Journal of the Member AreaMarch 29th, 2019
New Video and Writing entitled: “Slave Punishment – Cat Litter” is available in the Private Journal of the Member Area.March 22nd, 2019
A Mistress will not allow Her males to think they can get away with transgressions. We own you. This isn’t about playful foregone conclusions or notions of equality. This isn’t about bedroom games. This is about slavery to Female Keepers in a Female-led household under the mantle of Female supremacy and all powers it gives Women within it. (More inside)
This video and writing is about My slave’s wretched attitude during his “slave critique” last week.
Snippet of issue between Mistress and slave:
“…… Going along resentfully humble and obedient is the minimal bar for a man to reach in his servitude. And it’s the surest way to erode the dynamics of Mistress and slave.
He may not at all times enjoy slavery, including times when his ego may be bruised from hearing things about himself he doesn’t want to avow.
But he must accept every part of slavery given his status to his Mistress and his destiny in life.
But truthfully speaking, men can and should learn to let go of their egos and defenses if they want to live the life of a slave, for it is not enough to grudgingly concede to things that make his Mistress happy.
That misses the entire point of serving Her in the first place.”
New Video and Writing entitled: “Troublesome Slave” is available in the Private Journal of the Member Area.February 15th, 2019
Ego and slavery are mutually exclusive.
Snippet from video update:
Standing before Me, slightly bent forward in an imperceptibly
cringing attitude, he was nothing but a receptacle,
a hollow shell, impassive, expressionless.
Since at the moment it was receiving no input from My will,
it remained motionless, hanging.
Not only passive, but non-existent.
And for a prolonged instant I kept looking down with a
satisfaction at that creature that was not quite a person anymore.
Instead had become an extension of Myself, as some robotic arm
directly wired to My brain.
Yet with the same empowerment and expendability as a machine.
I could discipline it, use it and exploit its toil and it would keep going
mindlessly no matter how painfully, until broken down.
New Photos and Writing entitled: “Slave Bondage” is available in the Private Journal of the Member Area.February 4th, 2019
Nothing looks sexier on a man than black, leather cuffs.
He’s feeling vulnerable, not knowing what Her intentions are.
He quivers. She smiles.
He wants to grovel and beg Her for mercy.
She knows he’s desperate to please Her.
She has the power and She holds it over his head.
BDSM play is fun and it doesn’t matter if you submit only sexually— so long as you’re honest about it.
Entering into consensual slavery is different from engaging in BDSM play.
There are plenty of people who engage in sexy role-play and creative bedroom games.
My contention is the lack of self-awareness displayed by some who decide to enter into consensual slavery.
“Those” meaning persons who pretend to be something they’re really not.
That said, this is different from a newbie who is sure to make unintentional mistakes.
(More inside and video regarding this issue to follow.)
New Writing and Video entitled: On Financial Domination is available in the Private Journal of the Member Area.January 16th, 2019
New writing and video update: “On Financial Domination”.
Money is power and pleasure; it is influential, sexual and so many other things. The act of monetary tithing is both symbolic and concrete; it is a proxy for a man’s will to please.
New Audio with video entitled “A Slave’s Limit” is now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.January 4th, 2019
Pushing a slave beyond his limit reminds him of his place in the greater tapestry of life: that his lot is to serve, to labor and to suffer for Females —even in ways he may or may not like. Thus is the beauty of slavery!
New Writing and Photos entitled “50 Shades of Sensation Play” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.December 17th, 2018
I have about 10 Female members registered to My site. One of them called Me on niteflirt. She and I hit it off so well, we’ve been talking to one another weekly. We may meet up on New Year’s Eve in Amsterdam. Anyway, She asked if I would tell Her what sorts of sensual rewards I can recommend She do with Her husband. They do not practice a BDSM lifestyle but She is dominant in the bedroom. I will make a video this weekend on one of the rewards I give My slaves for their good behavior. It’s sexy and erotic, and can be enjoyed by vanilla couples who want to dabble in bondage, teasing and sensation play. Stay tuned! 🙂
New Writing and Video entitled “Punish the Animal” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.December 4th, 2018
After Thanksgiving dinner and before dessert, I decided to paddle My slave for a recent transgression. You can view his punishment in this video update. As he is disciplined for his unruly behavior, hear one of My standard lectures that accompanies his punishment. Punishment always comes with verbal discourse. As you can tell, I enjoy lecturing My slaves, even when I am not gracing them with discipline.
New video update! Sometimes a hard working slave deserves a reward! Rewards must not become an expected thing among slaves, however; they must always be received in gratitude.
So cool! Just over 8,000 light years away from Earth! Picture by: NSA.
New Writing and Video entitled “Vote 2018” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.October 27th, 2018
This video update is for My American boys. 🙂 Vote in the 2018, November 6 Mid-term elections.
New hypnosis video for My internet slaves in the USA . Have fun with it, and DO as I Command!
New Writing and Video entitled “Mental Conditioning” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.October 16th, 2018
Ladies, when males call My niteflirt phone line I tell them how it is. And you should too, in your own way. Males love to hear how a Mistress will force them into slavery. I tell them: Work so I get paid. Clean My house while I fine dine with My Girlfriends. Crawl and slither while I sit comfortably. Sweat and labor while I smirk sadistically. Embed these dictates into their reptilian brains and they will be addicted to you for eternity! Don’t hesitate to lecture them on how you expect to use them. And mean every word of it. Don’t do it for them because that’s what you think they want you to say. Own it. Mean it. See him as the utility animal that he is. See him as the slave he was born to be. Make no apologies. Grace him with your generosity by using him as you see fit. Your cruel confidence will make his nut sac tingle. He wants to demonstrate his desperation. A true blue slave will give anything to experience your elegant enjoyment of his submission. Take advantage of his addiction.
Make it fun and sexy!
And while you’re at it, make a hypnosis audio for him to listen to as he slaves away for you, as I did in this video update.
New Writing and Video entitled “Mindlessness” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.September 26th, 2018
New writing and video update: “Mindlessness”.
I want My slave to be reliable in his obedience. When he fails Me, his transgression must not go unanswered, lest it erode the structure of the relationship. Female-led relationships mirror traditional forms of relationships: they are in a perpetual state of work and progress. While disciplining a slave isn’t always fun, it reminds them what it means to be obedient, to be a slave in spirit, heart and mind.
New Writings and Photos entitled “Just Like a Dog” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.September 13th, 2018
New photos and writing update: “Just Like a Dog”.
New Writing and Photos entitled “At Our Feet” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.August 31st, 2018
New photos and writing update: “At Our Feet”.
New Instructive, Hypnotic Masturbation Audio/Video entitled “You Want To Be Used” is now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.August 21st, 2018
New hypnotic masturbation audio/video update: You Want To Be Used.
To My future slaves, inside you will find your instructions…
New Audio Training and Video entitled “Worship the Well Spring of Life” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.August 6th, 2018
New audio training and video update: Worship The Well Spring of Life.
Why must you worship the Female? I’ll tell you why!
New Writing and Photos entitled “Morning Paddle” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.July 20th, 2018
New photos update: Morning Paddle:
Have a nice weekend!
New Writing and Photos entitled “Morning Rituals” are now available inside the Private Journal of the Member Area.July 14th, 2018
New photos update: Morning Rituals:
Good morning My lovies! Here’s a glimpse of how My mornings flow each day. (Photos inside are larger.) It’s simple, varies slightly depending on My mood. I know a lot of you boys love foot worship, so I will make new morning ritual foot worship photos or video tomorrow!
Have a great weekend. 🙂