Armor Isn’t Healing: A Feminine Perspective On Jordan Peterson’s Message to Men.

Note: This entry is for vanilla guys who aren’t in consensual, submissive relationships with a chosen Mistress, though devotee’s should read this too and apply it outside the perimeters of their M/s relationships.

I’ve been thinking a lot about younger guys lately, twenties mainly. They seem lost, anxious, and looking for guidance and who isn’t looking to grow, right. Sometimes I contemplate who is guiding them. I’m concerned some are being used. Especially by figures like Jordan Peterson.

At first quick glance, he seems like a mentor. He tells them to stand up straight, clean their rooms, take responsibility. And on the surface that sounds good. But underneath it? IMO, there’s something darker.

He doesn’t just encourage self-discipline—he fervently feeds their fears. He teaches them to see feminism as a threat, women as chaotic forces, and progress as a loss of control. Instead of helping them grow into kind, secure men, he subtly trains them to blame women, trans people, and “the left” for their unhappiness. He makes them feel strong not by building character—but by handing them someone to look down on. To blame.

That’s not wisdom. It’s manipulation.

It’s easy to see Jordan Peterson is profiting off of men’s pain, but yet is offering them little that’s really new and/or transformative. Most of what he says: clean your room, stand up straight, take responsibility—are basic life lessons that don’t require some global platform to announce. But he’s packaged these simple messages in a way that makes them feel profound, while quietly encouraging men to point fingers outward instead of looking inward.

And there’s a subtle seduction in his language; it flatters men into believing they are victims of a broken world rather than participants in their own growth. It shifts the focus away from self-awareness and emotional maturity, and toward blame, resentment, and control. That could feel empowering in the Now, but in the long term I really don’t see how it helps men evolve. What he’s selling isn’t healing—it’s armor. And real strength, to me, comes from being willing to take the armor off.

At the end of the day, this hurts everyone. It hurts the younger guys who could’ve been thoughtful and grounded, and it hurts the women who have to deal with the fallout: guys who think control equals strength, who can’t take “no,” who feel entitled to authority they haven’t earned.

And ps—I’m not here to hate on men. I love the joy of real, emotionally honest friendships with men and servants. But that’s why I speak up—because I want more for them than false promises wrapped in fear. We don’t need more rigidity. We need more healing, more empathy, more growth. That’s the real path to strength.