Female Assets

August 19th, 2010

SUBMISSIVE MEN: Knowing who I am, does this image irk you? Be honest.  Does something about this photo feel incompatible with the image you have of Me?

In case you’re wondering what the hell I’m talking about, I’ll explain. For some (in fact many), the idea of a dominant Female on all fours engenders the incompatible specter of “submission”.  I sort of forgot that until I read the well-intentioned words of a loyal acolyte, warning that the photo may be taken “in the wrong posture”.

I’m above needing such advice, though it’s of course true that some men do think this way…even men who claim to believe in the natural supremacy of Women. Extending the logic of that thinking tends to make one think, however, about all the fetishes Women embody for men. Does wearing high heels make a Woman a panderer to male fetish, for instance? What about short skirts or thigh-high boots? I’m aware that it’s not so much what you wear, but how you wear it; the essence of the attitude, the tacit gestures of dominance.  Yet still, if you take the objectification of the Female—and the part in it She Herself plays—to it’s most extreme end, one sees a great many things to which women acquiesce for the allure of the visual.

Is this an act of homage to male dominance, however? I emphatically say no. To Think so is to buy into the idea that any expression of Female sexuality that results in male arousal is therefore strictly in the service of males. In a biological sense, one might say that sexualizing oneself is a method of appealing to the opposite sex, of rousing him (or Her) to action, but is this the same as submitting to the opposite sex?

I can sit like a Queen on a throne and push My foot forward for a slave to massage or clean with his tongue. I can crawl on all fours in complete nudity, wielding the obvious power of that entreaty on the male libido. Is it for him? It might just be, but whom does it ultimately serve? Me, of course.

Even Women who are “submissive” hold the magic of their flesh—the magic of their coveted sex—and in the end, it is the possessor of this magic that is really possessor overall.  This power of sex is the power of Women, and frankly, we have let men capitalize and frame this power this way and that for far too long.  Who is a man to say what is contained in any posture of our beauty, or anyone, for that matter?   Where do these ideas come from?  Exposure to lad magazines in formative years and the lingering elements of chauvinism from old and outdated ways of thinking delude us into modesties about the Female form and its body language.

To My Sisters I would suggest liberation from this way of thinking, to celebrate in the beauty and power that is the Female form, to accept that even if we stand over Our males or bend provocatively at them, We still envelope, either way.

Dear Tempted Heart: In Responsum

August 17th, 2010

On a daily basis My many inboxes are crowded with requests from males seeking to submit, pining away for a chance to serve. Often, it’s hard discerning boldness from ignorance. Often, I realize the latter is in far more abundance. Often, when I proceed to educate the would-be servant on the reality of who I am and what I do, there is suddenly that telltale equivocation, or perhaps more obviously, the abrupt absence that is all too telling; he was in over his head, or mistook Me for a Lady who plays by the NLA handbook.

As many dominant Females online will attest, the illiteracy factor online, particularly among males who surf the web ever-erect, is worrisome.  It’s downright annoying, too. But that shouldn’t deter Me from giving those who are sincere in their queries a fair shake. So…what to do? Filtering out the nonsense is a tiring job. I certainly have no interest in sifting through mounds of dirt to find a diamond, but I do realize there are diamonds from time to time that show up…men who truly get it and have a desire to perhaps serve Me.  They are genuinely passionate, curious and have somehow avoided the disease of egocentricity and cynicism so often found in “submissive” males.

Oh, I could go on forever describing My aversions to dealing with the masses when seeking slaves, so I’ll cut to the chase and spare the lecture: If you wish to find out how you may go about meeting Me with the intent to serve, click here:

http://saharaheve.com/audience_with_saharah_eve.html

Yes!

You have to pay for it.  Aren’t I a clever capitalist?  But seriously, I have better ways of making money.  What I like about this handy dandy link is how handy it will be in separating the wheat from the chaff.  By making sub-male Don Juans pay for the information, I immediately filter out the cynical eye rollers who pinch their wallets perhaps a little too tightly for My personal tastes; I invite the visitor to literally put his money where his mouth is.  Now granted, this won’t stop all the undead from showing up on My front lawn wanting to suck on My toes, but it will cut down the population considerably enough to handle the rest in sane fashion.

So lest there be any confusion, the above link does not give you a chance to meet Me; it only describes how you can go about it with the most likely chance I’ll take you up on having an audience so I may observe you and determine compatibility.  Per the verbiage contained in the link, you’ll find that you must be living in the USA, and be a biological male (after all, I’m looking for Xy beasties).  There are other restrictions, of course.  Go check it out if you’re interested.

And yes, I know I’ll receive a few emails and scornful, finger-waving blog posts out there in internet land telling Me how cold and shallow I am to make men purchase this information.  In My best Bill Clinton voice, I will say I feel your pain.

Apple iphone 4

August 1st, 2010

Since computers became relevant, I had My eye on Apple Computer, and in the late nineties I purchased My first Mac ever—a snazzy looking (at the time) G4. Since then I’ve owned several models, ranging from an iBook to a Mac Pro. One of My slaves introduced Me to the iPhone —a truly remarkable innovation in the smart phone market, though I will confess I never purchased an iPod or any other iThis or iThat.  Apple, a company who’s early years were marked by impoverished market share and the reputation for making computers fit only for musicians and creative snobs, found its niche products and marketing innovations all of a sudden paying off. Since the inception of the multi-flavored iMacs for college kids gimmick and the iPod mania soon after to follow, Apple brought itself into the limelight and enjoyed a new sort of hip popularity.

It seemed that overnight, hundreds of thousands more people were “Apple people”. Crowded Apple stores began popping up in the malls. Apple became more than an OS and hardware maker for arcane artist types; it was the gadget maker of choice for the cool people. Their products were (and are) trendy and coveted, and a sort of cult has grown around Apple and its products.  This fact isn’t anything new, but the size of “the cult” has certainly grown in that so many seem to find Apple products desirable. The demand, orchestrated and augmented by a posh marketing machine right out of Buyology, has grown by leaps and bounds.

And therein lies the rub. Apple has seemed somewhat inefficient and inconsiderate in keeping up with what they knew will be the inevitable demand for their products, though I suspect the inefficiency is calculatingly purposeful.  Much like the cabbage patch doll craze, the limited inventory of the item at launch date only makes it more coveted and snatched up when made available.  We can only speculate why Apple puts its customers on a “reservation list” to buy the new iPhone 4 when it has the coffer power to mass produce and distribute the devices to any volume needed.  Perhaps it’s incompetence. Perhaps it’s clever marketing.  Whatever it was didn’t keep Me from reserving a new iPhone, but (when after waiting nearly two weeks for Apple’s email telling Me My phone was ready) I showed up half a day late to pick it up—only then to be told My phone’s reservation expired and was sold to someone else.  I was told by an affable sales rep that I had to resubmit a new order.  Needless to say, I was a bit put out.  Upon exiting, I noticed a velvet-roped line forming outside the Apple store, right next to the entrance. Beside and above the line hung all the marketing blurbs and slick images extolling the arrival of the new phone. The people in the line looked—how shall we say—less than starry-eyed.

Now don’t get Me wrong.  I’m sure the new iPhone 4 is great (minus some reception problems I’ve been hearing about), but did I want to exhaust Myself with another annoying wait period?  Was the iphone worth the burden?  The answer is, simply, no.  A submissive friend of Mine who prides himself on being a big shot business owner in the New Jersey area had this to say about Apples tactics: it’s brilliant marketing!  Uh, no.  Anyone bearing witness to the rather condescending wait line would have been put off—and the ones who were in the line on display for passersby certainly looked a little numb.

“Brilliant marketing”?  Well, it doesn’t work for Me.  It was precisely *that* ostentatious and insulting ploy which made Me want to switch phones.

So who is this foolishness really working for?  No one in that cattle line looked beguiled and star struck with the iphone 4, and I walked out feeling snubbed.  So as fate would have it, I’m going to pick up My EVO soon. :-)

Trample

July 21st, 2010

I uploaded a new video to the members area featuring some trampling and abject foot worship. This practice has little practical use for anything other than My sheer sadistic amusement in causing a lot of pain to My slaves. Conceptually, having your back walked on doesn’t sound all that terrible an ordeal—until of course you consider that all My weight is pinpointed on the narrow spots of My high heels. Ouch. Very painful! I often draw blood doing this, too, and the screams are, well…always enjoyable.

Or view it here.

Foot Worship

June 29th, 2010

Males lick our heels because they worship and desire us; hoping they just might get a chance to culminate their desire through the ancient ritual of intercourse and mating.  We make men give of their hard labor and earnings. We make them grovel lustfully and sacrifice.

Sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words—a moving one even more so. I’ve taken a liking to narrating the movies I make with My expressed thoughts. Click on the image to the left for a sample of My latest foot worship video.

Or view it here.

Chastity & Xy Discipline

June 5th, 2010

I will avow I’m amused by the industry male chastity has become. There are many product choices and their quality ranges from functional to artful. I’ve noticed the term “keyholder” is gaining more popularity even among the dabblers, too. How nice! That male seed retention is increasing in popularity—even if a “diversionary fetish”—puts a smile on My face. An industry can only be as successful as the demand for it, and it’s very telling considering how popular these items have become.

As I’ve expressed in previous threads, though I highly promote and enforce seed retention and the male discipline that inevitably goes along with it, I’m more of a shock device kinda gal, and for that reason I have made makeshift zappers from canine shock collars (big fan of the Sport Dog line). I was delighted to see Dream Lover Labs take that idea further by customizing a shock product specifically for male discipline through the use of a bracelet remote with options. Their website is right in line with My way of thinking; if you want a dream man—let’s be honest, Sisters—9/10 what you really want is a slave bearing Xy chromosomes. Now unfortunately, males don’t come out of the box already trained to do dishes, clean toilets, scrub floors, do laundry, vacuum and generally work their asses off for you with passion, and even the most well intentioned men often need a little incentive to have the pep we Women are really looking for. What I’ve always liked about shock systems is their “in the moment effectiveness”—not just in delivering tremendous pain to the most sensitive area, but in terms of the worry of it being delivered. That sort of low-involvement behavioral control for Me is ideal, though I won’t deny that there are plenty of opportunities for crops and whips, too—when I’m in the mood or need to make something doubly clear (not to be confused with when I just whip My man for fun). For this reason I applaud what Dream Lover Labs is working hard to accomplish in a customized and aesthetic tool. Speaking of which, I will send My official please hurry this thing to market recommendation to the owners of this device. :-)

Now as far as chastity devices go (like the CB2000 line), I tend to operate a little differently. While many of these types of products are intriguing for the male imagination in the sort of “do me” sense, I personally don’t find much use for for metal and plastic cock blockers in every day capacity, nor do I see them as ultimately effective. In a nutshell (pun intentional) I prefer a male to have the self-control and devotion to not spill his stuff when a breeze so much as grazes his genitals. Part of My doctrine involves fostering internal self-discipline as a form of worship to Me. That and something called trust. I even encourage frequent and prolonged erections during meditative worship on My image or body in the flesh—so long as only pre-ejaculate is produced in small amounts. If you are devoted enough to serving Me, you will take to heart how important it is that you keep your sexual energies constantly revved. I like My men passionately erect—literally and figuratively; they are so much more loving and obsequious when they are—as any dominant Woman with some experience under Her belt will tell you.

One small note to My fellow Sisters: male chastity devices are useful for men from time to time to avoid the unfortunate spillage that can occur through wet dreams, if such things become a potential problem. The trial and error that occurs through psychological chastity training is definitely well worth the effort; you will see your male take on a new energy with his libido bolted firmly in place (figuratively speaking, that is)!

The Devil Wears Leather (But tastefully)

May 8th, 2010

Leather fashion for a Dominant Female

Leather is a “meh” subject for Me.  As anyone who has been following My site can attest, I don’t dress in it often.  The truth is I find many “sexy” leather outfits cliche and utterly ridiculous looking.  Outfits created for nothing more than a hot Saturday night at the local dungeon don’t cut it with Me.  It takes a lot for Me to appreciate a leather outfit as both provocative and tasteful and something fashionable enough you could wear out and about.  The Lady in the stellar outfit to the right is wearing something I consider to be just that.  It’s elegant, sleek, simple and just plain grown up.  A+

Mail Bag: You Are Just Another Sex Robot For Men!

April 14th, 2010

Dear Saharah,

With all due respect, for you to place most dommes in the category of women who just please male fetishes and leave yourself out is a little much. Yes you may “enjoy” treating men like puppies and dogs, pissing on them, sitting on their faces, shocking them and everything else you “like” do, but these are all things that were initially imagined by the male mind. Just like almost all dominatrices who claim they are so real, so “lifestyle”, so not doing what the men tell them too when in actuality they are. Femdom completely is male fantasy. It’s like a video a game. Yes you the player can walk wherever you like in the game, change your outfits within the game, and do different special combinations, but at the end of the day the name of the game and software was developed by perverted feminine degrading patriarchal culture, and the goal of that game is to either make them cum in some weird way, or put off their orgasm. Just like most dommes you just separate yourself from the “others” because you are successful at being spoiled. It’s just like courtesans who say they aren’t prostitutes cause they aren’t walking the streets. Just because you deal with a male of “higher” caliber doesn’t make you not what you are, an objectified automated female robot toy programmed to dominate and doesn’t realize it. Just like I know you will like to think that your fake boobs, fake nails, fake hair are all just a natural expression of your femininity and has nothing to do with pleasing men. We both know that isn’t true. We know women didn’t invent these things, didn’t need those things, and those things were developed to make woman in man’s ideal plastic image. That’s who you are despite how smart or how well put together you are.


Again I’m not saying this to be disrespectful, but I get tired of hearing certain females make it seem like they built the house they live in. You are a male sexual object. All your interests in subjugating males were introduced to you by males and their cocks. You just made their interests your own because you sleep in a bed that they purchased, and travel and live at their expense. Which nothing is really wrong with that. But I challenge you to “enslave” these boys without treating them like animals, without hurting or “degrading” them. Or can you? I would like to see you express your dominance outside of the male imagination, without “using their desires against them”. Only then will you be doing what you for you and not to upkeep a fantasy world for lowly perverted males. Otherwise you will only be dealing in the realm of pleasing them, directly or indirectly. I would also bring it to your attention that matriarchal means mother-centered, which doesn’t mean female-centered. A matriarchy is a culture, a community, an economy, that includes women, their families, and their environment, not a male constructed fantasy. To bring up the word matriarchy means to invoke ancient cultures where mothers dominated not through degradation or pissing on people but because of their true feminine powers of giving and sustaining life, human and non-human. I would like to see “matriarchal” dommes think in those terms.

Anonymous


Dear Madam:

It may surprise you to hear me say that it is you, actually, who is the instrument of “the patriarchy”, as much as you may not think you are.

Scratching your head? Please allow me to explain.

In general, your leeriness of male influence and meddling in the world has a definite thread of wisdom, but taking it to this paranoid extreme serves as nothing more than the ultimate way to strip Women of their sexual power, influence and dominance.  In your world view, Women are destined to be sex objects no matter what, apparently.  How very convenient that:

a. being a sex object is unavoidable, and

b. you have consigned yourself to the shell game—purposefully or inadvertently—that being a sex object is inherently bad in this day and age.

I was surprised to learn after reading your words that everything I think and every action I take in my dominance with my males (or appreciation for my own Feminine aesthetic as well, it seems) is somehow a contrivance of males and male thinking and male influence and male directives. To that I say, with all due respect in return, nonsense.

I understand the ways the sexes influence each other.   Women, just like men, do not and most likely will not ever live in a vacuum from each other.  We influence and are influenced by the opposite sex in ways big and small; this is inevitable and ultimately apparent to a mature, rational thinker who isn’t afraid of getting cooties or being in the presence of an unabashed erection.  With that said, your insistence that I’m just another cloned fetish robot that never had an original thought in her head when it came to dominating men is not only ludicrous (given that you don’t know me and have never been privy to my formative thoughts) but also (and rather ironically, I might add) underscores how original I really am, in the end—if we buy into your idea that all Women are various permutations of Stepford Wives obeying the supreme male directive. Fortunately, that’s just not true. Females have fully functioning brains, and can have brazen thoughts of their own.  What a novel idea!

You see, when I was in elementary school, my friends and I enjoyed picking on the boys we liked. We would tease them, taunt them, manipulate them, and sometimes downright torture them, and not out of hostility either, but a desire to “have fun”. I can personally remember accounts of us Girls holding boys down and slow-drolling our spit right into their mouths, or outrunning and tackling young males on the recess field for the sheer thrill of it. They grew to love the attention and would tease us back to try and get our attention all over again.  I enjoyed having boys carry my books for me or fetch things out of my locker for me later on in junior high.  I called them my “go get it” boys.  During these times I was wholeheartedly enjoying the influence and power I had over the males of my age, and this is long before I came to put words to the things I did.  This was also all without the aid of the internet and BDSM porn so ever-present with the click of a mouse today.  I suppose the patriarchy was influencing me in some other way, even then?  Perhaps it was in the school’s Kool Aid or peanut butter bars? Mmmm, peanut butter bars! Remember those?

Anyway, as for your assertions of objectifying myself for men in everything I do, I’d say you have a very narrow and once again limited view on who I am and how I live my life.   Has it ever dawned upon you that Women actually like being pretty and dolled up and beautifully feminine all of their own accord?  We no doubt use our make-up and hair styles and long nails and heels to attract and seduce men, but we often do the same for other Women, too.   I personally am quite attracted to Females; I often find them more interesting sexually and intellectually than most men.  My lesbian friends have their nails done, wear make-up, high heels, and so on, and there isn’t a man in sight during their bedroom activities.  Kinda bursts your over-glorified blowup doll for the patriarchy bubble, now doesn’t it?

Now that we’re on to bursting bubbles, let’s pick apart more of your unfortunate (and rather gross) truisms.  You claim that “Femdom” was invented by males.  While some cliché iterations of “Femdom” may be orchestrated solely by the aggregate demand of nutsacks, “Femdom” and Female dominance are not perfectly synonymous anyway, at least not in my book.  There is without a doubt a “product” version of Female dominance in circulation; it is rapaciously consumed by the types who frequent “dungeons” and pick from a menu what sensation play they require to come out an hour later grinning ear-to-ear.  I don’t want you to think I look down upon such types, or the talented actresses who often play the parts these men need, but to lump all dominant Females into the same group of “Femdom is a male fantasy” is block headed, utterly ignorant, and smacks of little to no balanced, real-world experience at all; you are blind (or quite determined not to see) the different forms of Female dominance there are in the world, not to mention the fact that simply because a “pro” serves in one capacity doesn’t mean She isn’t being served in another—or is everything so absolute and bi-level to you?

Further, to say Female dominance is wholly and completely a product and invention of the male not only goes against the living example that I know I am, but also requires a fairly lengthy and esteemed peer-reviewed research paper indicating how this is so. Somehow I doubt this paper and the exhaustive historic research that accompanies it is forthcoming.  Your stance, in one blunt and ignorant motion, denies the origin of dominance having a possibility in the Female sex, and your insistence that it’s all a “video game” that Women are trapped in is cynical, pessimistic, defeatist, and finally, pro-male propaganda disguising itself as a “reality check”, which does little more than perpetuate the power of its idea, ironically.  We live in a world with a human population of 6.6 billion, roughly half of which is Female, according to sites like Geohive. Are you saying that out of the 3,386,509,865 Females (calculated in 2008) in the world, not a single one ever conceives on Her own the idea of controlling the man in Her life or dominating him?  Of using Her Female intellect and charms to control him?   Ordering his dinner for him?  Deciding on a movie to see for the evening?  Insisting on almost always driving?  Administering chores in the household?  Managing his money?  Insisting on gentlemanly etiquette?  Initiating sex and intimacy? Of belting him?   Slapping him?  Caging him?  Sitting on his face?  Urinating on him?   Having Her way with him in general?  Honestly, it takes more faith to believe in that than it does to believe the second coming of Christ is soon at hand.

Your insinuations that I do not really like doing what I do are equally untenable, considering I am the only one who can speak with authority on who I am and what I like. Who invented what—even if it could be proven or even if such a dichotomy made sense to bring up—is wholly and completely irrelevant. I’m quite free to (and do) engage in whatever activities amuse or interest or benefit me, regardless of who first invented this or that. I have no trouble writing this to you on a computer and operating software that was no doubt conceived, designed and engineered mostly by carriers of the Xy chromosome.

You further go on to rather “elegantly” state that who and what I am is entirely a product of mens’ cocks. You place yourself in the lofty position of enlightened mentor to my childish and naive assumptions about men, sex, and more importantly, myself and the entire world I live in. I wonder, when does my choice to swallow a red or blue pill come in?

Your cited evidence to convince me of my apparent delusions are statements such as “you sleep in a bed that they purchased, and travel and live at their expense”. Let’s assume for a moment that you know exactly how I make and manage all my income, and what I have is all purchased at the expense of men. I say: so what? But adding further on to this, I’ll now touch upon the reality: the bed I sleep in was paid for by me, if you must know. The house I live in is paid for by me too, as are many of my possessions. Those things that I do receive from men are a direct result of my efforts, intellect, imagination, will, and desire, not to mention their hard-earned money and obsequious attention. I think it’s fair to say you don’t have much of a point thus far, if you care to read between the lines.

You further go on in inviting me to express my dominance with my males outside of the male imagination, without “using their desires against them”. Why? Is not taking male intellect and imagination, desire and instinct into account when dominating them the supposed high road? If so, I have quite a few lifestyle friends from “both sides of the whip”, as they say, who would take issue with that idea, and they aren’t victims of pro-male propaganda.

And, perhaps the jewel of all your statements: “Only then will you be doing what you do for you and not to upkeep a fantasy world for lowly perverted males. Otherwise you will only be dealing in the realm of pleasing them, directly or indirectly.”

I find your outlook on the company I keep fairly insulting and tremendously misinformed—and that’s putting it nicely. Who is this person who speaks to me as if she/he has the authority and worldliness to dictate when or how or why my dominance with my males is real or not? Further, I find this need to discard male pleasure as a prerequisite of “real” Female dominance a foolish and unrealistic (and not to mention inhuman) notion. Per your obviously polarized and distorted outlook on Female dominance and male submission, you are in no position to lecture to me on what it is that I do and enjoy.

I’m going to let you in on a little secret: Female dominance is real. It doesn’t matter that men in our lives are getting what they want from time to time. We Women are getting what we want three-fold over, and the only limits inhibiting a Woman’s power or the horizons to which She can take Herself are her own cynicism and lack of imagination. Just because we may use our sexuality to turn heads, gain admirers, clients, lovers and slaves doesn’t make us victims. This is a new age, and new battle lines in the war of the sexes are being drawn in many parts of the world. In fact, they are being moved, broken and ultimately blurred. As the dust settles with each new renovation, things are looking pretty good for Women. Things aren’t looking much like a war at all, in fact. While there is still much to be done for the betterment of Women, it’s important to keep in mind the virtues of a modern western society, if you are so inclined to live in one. As for you personally, I’m sorry you live in such a pessimistic and paranoid world that you believe there is a phantom phallus lodged permanently in all Women’s actions and motives. It must be awful really believing that.

P.s. For the record:

Matriarchy
1. A family, society, community or state governed by Women.
2. A form of social organization in which the Mother is head of the family, and in which descent is reckoned in the Female line.

Source: Webster’s Unabridged Dictionary (I can quote Oxford too, if you like).

Lest there be any doubt, it’s both definitions I include when I speak of matriarchy. You’re free to insist definition two is the only relevant item, but it doesn’t mean we have to listen to you.

All text in this post © 2010 SaharahEve.com

Slaves are Selfless—Right?

March 22nd, 2010

Excerpt:

This seems to be a common misconception riddled in the Mistress and slave circles of D/s. It’s rhetoric that is often touted, but seldom deeply considered, and often goes something like this: “A male isn’t a slave unless he’s selfless—devoid of desires and needs! If the male comes with a list of desires, he’s selfish and should not be considered a real slave. If his submission is connected to his loins, he’s not a real slave—he’s a bottom.” Adding to this fallacy are BDSM websites depicting pictures of bird-flipping teens and twenty-somethings proclaiming: “It’s all about Me. You don’t matter.” I’m sure you’ve heard it before…

You can read more inside My Private Journal.  Please feel free to make comments on the article or on the subject in general.

Seed Retention: The Enforced Continuum of Male Desire Under Matriarchal Rule

March 12th, 2010

I have recently written an article on the good of retaining male seed in My private Journal here.  I will be curious to know the thoughts of members, especially My acolytes. All this is on the heels of a new seed retention program I intend on initiating in My soon to be complete worship page within the members area. More to come on that soon…

Indeed, the Female symbol in My ideal world represents a gateway of many things: a passage through which life enters the world, a portal through which man aches to renew himself, an entrance of fleshly and spiritual Nirvana.  For what is male without pouring himself into Female, the primary organism?”

Humiliation—why?

March 9th, 2010

Dear Saharah:

Why do we like being humiliated? Why is it ok to be degraded by words like “loser” and “worthless” in a scene, but not so good outside of one?

Michael

I’ve always found the concept of “humiliation” a bit of a mental tavern puzzle when you get into the nuts and bolts philosophy and psychology of D/s, and I’ve been meaning to share My further thoughts on this subject.   First, I should note two things:

1. Though they can be related, I think there is a difference between “degradation” and “humiliation”.  They may seem synonymous, but I don’t feel they really are.

2. The humiliation and degradation I speak of falls within the realm of lifestyle choice only; it is encapsulated in context of a relationship of some form.

Personally, I prefer degradation over humiliation, perhaps because one is fulfilled by the submissive side of the dynamic by being degraded in a fairly straight forward sense that I can measure more clearly. They are made to be “lower”—to be brought down, to be reminded of station.  From My experience, I find men who value degradation have a need to go beyond the theatrics of just being embarrassed or mocked.

There are many reasons why men fetishize consensual humiliation and degradation in or outside of actual slavery;  both often heighten a man’s feelings and makes him feel connected to the Woman through Her attention and intimacy.  For some men who enjoy transient “scenes”,  their love of humiliation/degradation can be for temporary self-debasement and ego knock-down.   Whatever the recipe or dynamic may be, there is a psychological excitement involved, but the individual is in reality secure to let himself go in a relatively safe environment.

Either way, humiliation, degradation and all the nuances in between are acceptable as they are expressions of some form of intimacy; your desire and feelings for the Woman and the bond it creates—even if transient—gives you internal permission to allow it to happen.  This is a far cry from allowing the entire world permission to degrade and humiliate you.  As I wrote in this post, I like to know My males are pathetic for Me, not pathetic males in general.

All text in this post © 2010 SaharahEve.com

Mail bag: Are submissive men losers?

February 26th, 2010

Dear Saharah,

We spoke awhile back and I was a member of your site for a while. Have been into Female Supremacy for a long time and am in agreement with your very articulate opinions.

For highly complex reasons, humiliation is a sexual turn on for me. Am struggling with whether it is possible to be submissive and at the same time not be a “loser”.   Are the men you are having eat out of dog dishes and engaging in masturbation contests losers?

Tim


Dear Tim,

Obviously, I can’t speak for all dominant Females, but I will say this is a very common idea produced from very common thinking.  I just recently had to address this misconception with an admirer who assumed those who serve Me are weak and pathetic.  Slavery—true slavery, true sacrifice, by will alone—isn’t sought by the weak.  Those men who seek to serve are courageous and passionate men who place themselves under My heel to be crushed and molded. They give themselves up, along with their male ego, to be humiliated, debased, used and exploited. Let’s see your average garden variety tough guy on the football team suffer a day of that for a Woman.  This isn’t to say My slaves aren’t pathetic, groveling, weak and hopelessly obedient, loving puppets for Me (they definitely are!), but that is a far cry from being a capital L “loser” in general.  Why would I want a worthless and useless person who has nothing to offer?  What is there to be gained from that?  I want useful, passionate worshipers who believe in what I believe, not useless scum from the bottom of the barrel.

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Mail Bag: Petitioning to serve

February 22nd, 2010

Dear Saharah:

I am a submissive male who wishes to serve a dominant Female. The most ideal Woman would be one who believes in Female Supremacy. I haven’t had a lot of luck attracting the interest of a Mistress. I’ve been on collarme.com, fetlife.com, bondage.com, facebook.com and so on and so forth for years. I’ve tried contacting the Women who have interested me, but they seldom write back. When they do I hardly ever get past the first round. What could I be doing wrong? I would be lying to say I haven’t wanted to serve you. In fact, I wrote to you two months ago and never got a reply. Do you have any advice for me (and others) who are looking to be owned by a Woman like Yourself? Are there just too many indians and not enough Goddesses to go around?

Sincerely,
Marko

Hi Marko,

I definitely understand the frustration you’re feeling. I hear this from many men. One thing to remember about the so-called supply and demand thing is this: though it may seem that there are many submissive men compared to dominant Women, in reality, both types are more scarce than we are led to believe. This means both dominant Women and submissive men who make this part of their “lifestyle” and life philosophy are few and far between. More than half the so-called “dominas” one sees on the web are little more than fanciful illusions, custom-built around the industry of male fetish. An even greater number of so-called “submissive men” are little more than bottoms, sensation tourists and johns jonesing to feed their fetishes.

That said, I would invite you to reflect upon how daunting it is for a Woman looking for the real deal to sift through the mountains of queries they get on a daily basis just to find a single gem. There is so much “average joe” out there that it gets a little disheartening, and before long, inboxes are abandoned in favor of other more worthy pursuits (like filing nails or playing Jenga). But really, in all seriousness, we dominant Females have heard it all before, and our eyes glaze over with the cliché opening lines and flowery prose we receive from would-be servants. The odds are already quite stacked against you in trying to stand out among the masses, but you’ll have to try your best.

Before you start down that path again, however, reflect inward and ask yourself this one fundamental question: are you really—truly—submissive? That may seem like an obvious question to ask, but it’s 90% of the reason why men claiming to be so never get off the ground in the first place. In submission there is reverence and enthusiasm to please, to go the extra mile, to think beyond oneself and consider what will please the object of their admiration / affection. A man who cannot or will not do this is fairly easy to spot, based upon his actions or lack thereof. I suppose it can be faked for a little while, but the illusion can never be maintained. You either have it in you to serve or you do not.

As for the remaining 10%, it all comes down to what you as a submissive man have to offer, and how you package up what you have to offer. Is your life in order? Are you employed? Are you in shape? Are you thoughtful? Imaginative? Generous? Respectful? Tasteful? Positive? Considerate?  And more importantly, HUMBLE?  Do you have what it takes to go the extra mile in making a concerted effort to be seen? Do you have integrity and honor? Hopefully you can answer all these questions with a “yes”. If so, it’s only a matter of time before you attract the passing attention of an alpha Female, and when you get that chance, don’t blow it by being stingy, lazy or so negative that you are self-defeating. Make yourself a source of pleasure for Her. Give without conditions. Become resourceful for Her and put your energies into Her betterment and gain. Do all this, but don’t do it at all if it will be half-hearted. She’s likely smart enough to know the difference. To put it simply, think of your submission in terms of the familiar computer science phrase, garbage in, garbage out. You get out of the experience what you put into it.

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Enoch Bolles

February 17th, 2010

A commemoration to the art of Enoch Bolles.

Special thanks to Mark Forer from MagazineArt.org for providing these scans.

To Members of My site

February 11th, 2010

I can’t begin to express how much your donations to the Haiti Fund mean to Me.

Your generosity is incredible and will certainly go to good use.

The devastation from the Haiti tragedy is off the scale, but your donations are helping to lighten the burden.

Fondly,

Saharah

Female Supremacy Myths

February 8th, 2010

There is a lot of noise being made lately—sounding suspiciously like whining—about the subject of Female Supremacy.  Visit any D/s forum online and you’ll no doubt run into bitter discourse over the idea. The flurry of writing around Female Supremacy doesn’t end with alternative lifestyle forums, either, of course; it tends to pop up in the oddest places online. Sometimes phrases like “extreme feminism” or “matrifocal values” serve as more politically correct stand-ins, but many of the conversations inevitably boil down to discussing if, why or how Women are better leaders and doers and, well, humans than men.

I use the term “discuss” very loosely, of course. More often than not it has nothing to do with rational debate, but an all too predictable contempt over notions of Female Supremacy, voiced by men (and even Women, from time to time) with an axe to grind.

Is the Female better than the male? It seems we are fascinated with this idea as a species; the battle of the sexes is in fact a very old one, but has taken on a new life in our times, it seems. Female intellect, beauty, competence and mojo are things our collective minds—for or against—seem mildly obsessed over dissecting and discussing. I suppose it makes sense, considering the legacy of sexism imposed upon Women and girls for generations by crumbling patriarchal cultures, surrounded by crumbling institutions. Without a doubt, we are living in an age of liberation from many old ways of male-oriented thinking. Even in regions of the world where male dominance still has a firm grip on religious and cultural values, the message of “Women can be more than equal” is a distant, but familiar whisper.

For a time, I suppose it seemed harmless enough that a small segment of the population believed Women were not only equal, but better than men. Apparently the idea was glued to the misandrous “Feminazi” types—extreme elitist fringe Feminists straight out of the pages of the S.C.U.M. Manifesto or Andrea Dworkin’s rhetorgasms. But talk of Matriarchal values, the superiority of Female leadership and the superiority of Females in general just refused to remain pegged like that, it seems. In fact, the “chicks rule” thing has gained some serious traction by more than a select minority. Steve Jones, Geneticist, author and professor, jauntily describes the male, from a genetic point of view, as ultimately the weaker sex, and the male Y chromosome as a shriveled and decrepit junkyard with little use past defining maleness. Brian Sykes, geneticist and author, uses the structural puniness and relative uselessness of the Y chromosome to demonstrate that men are unnecessary, biologically speaking. Columnist Maureen Dowd, with humor, wit and scathing sarcasm asks if men are even necessary.

Crusades for the XX sex in big print aside, a number of websites and blogs have emerged over the years from an army of individuals postulating the superiority of the Woman. Online journals, Yahoo groups, lifestyle forums and social sites have centered themselves exclusively around the subject.  Obviously, there is enough brouhaha on the subject to warrant these places. While the intellectual pillars of all things pro-Female may still be inadequate in measuring up to age-old thinking and customs, that is not to say they go without notice or aren’t persuasive.

Still, I often suspected our tendency to glorify “girl power” was nothing more than a byproduct of the social pendulum swinging far in the opposite direction, but when the last hat was tossed over Women’s lib novelty, the arm of that pendulum would rock back slowly toward a more sober view of the sexes, and extremists who seek more than equality would be seen as the outliers they really are. To an extent, it seems this is happening already. Male advocacy groups have begun to form over paternal rights of fathers against biased courts. Critics are waking up to the cynical portrayal of men as lecherous, dim-witted husbands and himbos in the media. The era of modern pulp science over sexual genetics is now being met with more objective inquiry and less sensationalism. Warren Farrell hints upon the “glass cellar” that exists for men when the glass ceiling for Women is all we ever seem concerned of talking about.

Certainly, these protests are happening for a reason. It’s not some outlandish fantasy that men have experienced some degree of neglect and humiliation in modern society. The traditional male archetype is a likely effigy for the pro-Female trends of our age, an image current culture seems to take collective pleasure in bringing down.

For the old sexist dinosaurs, Pandora’s box is open. Our time sets the theater for Womankind to transcend the age-old patterns of social hegemony brought about by the male. With the playing fields ever more leveled (at least in the country I live in), Women are thriving as they never have before, and some are realizing more than notions of equality with the male sex. It seems that one day we woke up and realized Female Supremacy wasn’t just an idea reserved for fanatical idealists; new generations of adults are bringing with them some bold ideas about the place of Women as heads of the household and leaders in society, and even as natural rulers of men.

With these bold ideas comes a great amount of idealogical conflict, especially from males who have experienced an “awakening” over their slipping social dominance (or the perception of it). Some may argue that this is due to nothing more than a gradual equalization of the sexes in society, and that men are making a pretty big deal over their challenges to boys club privilege. Others see notions of Female Supremacy as a clear sign Women intend to take more once they have achieved complete equality with men. During these exchanges, the very idea of Female Supremacy itself is repeatedly challenged, and naturally so; open supremacy arguments for anything don’t appeal to popular morality. No matter how ‘inappropriate” ideas Female Supremacy may be for some, these are excellent moments for productive and respectful dialogue to flourish between the sexes, but often what one encounters is misinformational campaigns of incredible hostility or ignorance. In an effort to address this, I have compiled a list of thirteen most popular myths about Female Supremacy that I often encounter when reading these exchanges. I hope they can at least offer some minor insight into the ideas of Female Supremacy (at least from my perspective) for newcomers, or bitter enemies of it alike.

Myth 1: Female Supremacists and Feminists are one and the same.

To understand this confusion, one only needs to consider the ways so-called “modern Feminism” has drifted from its original precepts, which originally sought equality with men. What seems to be the rise of a growing number of self-described “Female Supremacists” must be attributed, at least in part, to the pro-Female movement in society, which has evolved past “first wave” (late 19th to early 20th century) Feminism and often into something entirely different.

That said, it is important to note a distinction between the call for Female equality and the belief in Female Supremacy. When so-called “Feminists” like Erica Jong write, “I believe that women are the more spiritually advanced sex,” you are hearing expressions of Female Supremacy, not of sexual equality.

Feminism can be a starting point in the belief of Female Superiority, but Female Superiority, by literal definition, cannot be supported by Feminism without intellectually tainting the movement. If you are best described as a strong modern (so-called “third wave”) Feminist, chances are relatively high you really are a Female Supremacist to one degree or another. With that in mind, I’d invite some Women (and men) to do a little soul searching and come clean with this fact instead of hiding behind the mask of sexual equality.

Myth 2: The sexes, past their physical differences, are really the same and  therefore Female Supremacy is an illusion.

Given the above definition of Feminism in mind, when I discuss and advocate Female Supremacy, I am not speaking of Female equality with men, as original Feminism set out to do. Such an idea, to Me, smacks of a fool’s errand that will never be realized, for Female equality with the male is impossible to attain in all things. On political, social and economic fronts, the struggle for fairness and equality of opportunity is, of course, sound for both sexes, but such efforts will not free us from the burden of difference that exists naturally between the sexes. The dimorphism between the sexes—and the inherent contrasts brought about that result from this dimorphism—will never allow Female and male to be identical in all things. Female and male, no matter how we attempt to homogenize them through affirmative action or blend them with trends of gender bending, will never be interchangeable. They are different on a genetic level, and this difference manifests between the sexes in function and behavior. It is for this reason I diverge from believing Feminism, “masculinism”, or any other “isms” are cure-alls for equalizing the sexes past general social agendas.

Past opportunity to engage in our intellectual pursuits in society, I don’t ever want to think of Women and men as the same; considering the differences between the sexes I have observed in My own life, I know, quite simply, they are not. It is true that men and Women can be equally brilliant and talented—a child can make such an observation. What is equally true, however, is that males commit a substantially higher level of violence, molestation and sexual assault than their Female counterparts. No matter how you wish to flow the numbers, they clearly speak for themselves. The general link between aggressive behavior and higher levels of testosterone in males has been scientifically asserted in numerous studies, and thus far, not disproven.

Males do not bear ovaries, give birth, or possess the hormonal drives in Females. Males do not possess the same physical attributes, neuronal structure or genetic composition Females have. Do these differences and others between the sexes support supremacy arguments for the Female? That is entirely up to the observer to decide, but I, not surprisingly, believe so.

Myth 3: Female leadership and male leadership ultimately produce the same result.

We currently live in a world still overshadowed by patriarchal systems, and more relevantly, methods. War and acquisition by force is by no means a stranger to us. In a society with a history of male-oriented thinking and male-oriented rules, tranquility to this day is pursued by military, political or capitalist means, all framed within constructs of male thinking, for the most part. The cost of this system, collected through violent conflict, exploitative greed, monopolization, excessive militarism and endless destructive conflict, are evident enough.

Critics of Female Supremacy will often claim Matriarchy would be no better, though it’s impossible for them to make such an assertion, seeing as how we have no working large-scale model to make objective comparisons. Female Supremacists sometimes point to obscure tribes and cultures of indigenous peoples in Asia or Africa that are matrifocal, and though there are many revealing positives to such communities, I feel they are simply not large enough to serve as models for legitimate comparison. Some may attempt to reach back into the mists of time to prove the legitimacy of ancient Matriarchal societies centered around the Supreme Goddess, but solid proof such societies existed is hard to come by, and for many historians the idea has been abandoned.

What this ultimately means is we have no large working model—past or present—available to either advocate or reject the virtues of a Female-led society. Is this a smoking gun against our claims of the good in a matriarchal society? Not really. First, though not all of it bad, we know what the model of patriarchy has given to humanity.  We do not know what a Matriarchy would give us, though some of us have our ideas, and in the very least know that absence of evidence is not evidence of absence; it is an experiment, if you will, that has yet to be tried, if it ever will be.

Be that as it may, some clever objectors to the idea of Matriarchy will point to empresses and lone queens of the past who resorted to war and political machinations during their rule. Where such reasoning falters is fairly simple to see: the comparatively small sum of Female leaders sprinkled throughout history rose to power anomalously through male systems and male methods in a male dominated culture (and world, for that matter). Their legacy, good or bad, came not from embracing most of their feminine qualities, but masculine qualities, masculine influence and masculine counsel, I would assert.

Catherine II is purported to have claimed having a “masculine mind”. That She would claim such a thing isn’t so out of the ordinary; a Woman who wished to hold on to Her regnant status was often bitterly contested, not only by sword-wielding patriarchs from abroad, but by a patriarchal court surrounding and attempting to subvert Her very authority, as with Elizabeth I.  Without a doubt, despite their positive influences upon the people they ruled, some Female leaders in history have drawn their own share of blood, but are they an example of leadership as it would naturally occur in a matriarchal society with matriarchal values and resulting legacies? It is highly doubtful. The claim that a matriarchy would be better, while admittedly a theory, is simultaneously unfalsifiable.

Myth 4: Men are vital in the procreation process, therefore the sanctity of Women as life givers is equal to men.

Female Supremacists are often fond of touting the roles Women have in producing life, but the way it is often worded excludes the value of the obvious and necessary male contribution. Males are of course vital in the process of reproduction. Anyone who would refute that would simply need to ask themselves how the species would procreate without males (excluding scientifically assisted parthenogenesis). While this is so, it should be noted that vital does not mean equal.

While of course important, the male contribution to the process of creating life is far from equal. Biologically speaking, men are needed to provide the other twenty-three chromosomes in building a forty-six chromosome human life. Once the effort of intercourse is complete and sperm has fertilized the egg, the male role in reproduction becomes supportive, at best. The next nine months of pregnancy and the many years following it in child rearing are the Mother’s terriroty in almost all cases. The father, by comparison, is the more expendable parent. Though his biological contribution is vital, it is not equal to the Mother’s contribution. The egg exists within the Female, and the resulting new life is housed within Her while it grows. The male’s actual involvement, outside of taking up a supportive and protective role to the Female, serves as little more than a fertilizer. Though relevant as a helpmate, he is ultimately disposable after insemination, whereas the Female certainly is not. I suspect this is what advocates of Female Supremacy mean to say when the value of Woman as “life giver” is mentioned. While it may not always be phrased in the most polite way, the above logic on reproductive importance cannot really be refuted, outside of haggling over insensitive phrasing.

For those who remain skeptical about inherent male expendability, a simple mental exercise may help: A primitive community of natives are threatened by two approaching lions. Who is sent to fight them off? Pregnant, spear-wielding Females or the tribe’s fathers-to-be? The answer is obvious, I hope.

But Saharah, our advanced society has removed primitive threats, so your paradigm doesn’t stand for the sexes today.

The fact not all humans in the world enjoy the advantages of a technologically advanced society aside, that counterpoint has some relevance, until we consider threats don’t only come from primitive sources. Human threat, in all its diverse forms, is very real and quite relevant, and has been the larger enemy for thousands of years. Our modern world has simply traded in old dangers for new ones. Now the quest for survival involves avoiding financial ruin, starvation, personal assault, and even war. With such dangers in mind, men are still quite useful (even if they are often the cause of the trouble in the first place). It will always be desired that men extend themselves as our helpmates once their biological contribution has been made.

Indeed, men are needed. This is not to say men are of equal biological value to Women in the reproductive process, however. In biological and social terms, reproductive cost for the Female is tremendously high. It is for this reason Females tends to be highly selective, whereas males, who do not share the same biological cost, discriminate far less. Without exploitable skills, a man more often can’t attract or maintain a mate, but this is not true for Women. Most Women can and do enjoy a wide possible gamut of mates irrespective of their jobs or marketable skills. This simple example demonstrates the nature of Woman as the reproductive Source and man as the second sex. I’m certain there are many—particularly men—who don’t like reading such things stated so flatly, but I would invite a convincing argument against the above “hypothesis”.

Myth 5: Female Supremacy is “unhealthy kink”.

Such claims are usually made by self-important “experts” and celebrities in the BDSM lifestyle, who have rather high opinions of themselves. Their self image is so great, in fact, they feel they have a better grip on “reality” about psychological health in D/s than most of the unwashed masses, as if they own some sort of share or copyright in it all. They are quite quick to get up on the soap box and lecture over their own biases for equality, meritocracy, “real” love, mental health, moral responsibility, etc.

The problem with this delusion is painfully obvious. It flies in the face of a not-so-distant truth all engaged in alternative lifestyles must consider: whatever your “kink”, chances are it’s considered appalling, sick, deranged, worrisome, or morally wrong by most of the population. Up until a revision to the DSM IV in the mid nineties, sadomasochism was considered a sexual disorder—a paraphilia of concern, more or less. That was the official take on BDSM by those who were authorities in the soft science of psychology, and it wasn’t too long ago, when you consider the date. When the next aspiring Dr. Phil in latex asserts the absence of moral correctness for a way of life in D/s, consider the simple truth that most of the human population would find his practices worrisome too. With that in mind, I feel it is tolerance from all sides that is the better subject matter in conversation.

That aside, labeling Female Supremacy a “kink” is an obvious shell game in itself. I realize that for some, a kink is all Female Supremacy ever will be, and for others, they just can’t fathom applying notions of strict lifestyle domination and submission outside of the bedroom, but the fact remains that some of us do practice this as a real way of life. For those of us who do, having our beliefs and life practices written off as mere kink is dismissive, to say the least.  More to the point, it is entirely inaccurate.

Myth 6: Female Supremacy is solely a product of male thinking.

Another unfortunate spin, sometimes made by Female Supremacists themselves, is that the very concept of Female Supremacy is laden with male ways of thinking. In fact, some will even claim “Female Supremacy” was coined by a man. While that may be true, I’m not certain how such a claim can be proven conclusively. But never mind that. There is a more robust assertion that Female Supremacy and its underpinning philosophy is a male construct, as it incorporates notions of superiority, which is quantitative and not qualitative. Apparently, anything having to do with quantities and metrics and notions of supremacy is indicative of the male thought process. I didn’t get that memo, it would turn out. Perhaps I’m one of those reversed Stepford wives cleverly programmed to believe I prefer this way of life, but in really I’m nothing more than a mindless robot for male fetish. Riiiiight. Anyway, the paradox of sexist logic used to disprove another sexism aside, I can say, being Female, Female Supremacy is not simply quantitative. It is undoubtedly qualitative, too. When discussing the differences between Females and males (which inevitably occurs when discussing any form of sex supremacy or the sexes in general), comparing qualities between the sexes is inevitable ground. When we are challenged to find statistics to back up our suppositions, we are then engaged in metrics and ratios, of numbers proving to be higher here and lower there.

But the idea of Female Supremacy isn’t simply locked in so-called left-brained thinking. While much of the argument for the supremacy of the Female involves belief in the Female as “higher”, it is a result of Her qualities as a Female which are believed to make Her a better leader, guide, arbiter, and so on.  The intuitive, empathetic, maternal and aesthetic qualities in Women are a great source of belief in Female Supremacy, at least for me, and I would wager for many others in turn, who are not all left-brained males either, mind you.

If you are not so convinced after reading this particular entry, allow me to offer myself up as living evidence that Females think this way too. Masturbatory male fantasy always? Hardly, but I suppose that until people wake up and realize real Women are living this way of life, the ignorance, often self-chosen, will persist.

Myth 7: All Female Supremacists are out to convert the world to their way of thinking, and make all men their slaves.

There are those who believe that by simply defending or articulating the notion of Female Supremacy, we are somehow attempting to recruit. While this may be true of some select individuals, it certainly isn’t so of others.

Not convinced? I would then ask the reader how he came upon this very text. Was it anonymously mailed to you as a gynosocialist party pamphlet, air dropped over your house by black helicopters, attached to an arrow shot through your window, or did it menacingly interrupt your favorite cable show like a test of the emergency broadcast system? I’m going to take a wild guess of no on all counts. Chances are you’re reading this text on a blog (mine, I hope), or in a PDF you came upon by the course of your own natural curiosity or interest. It was not forced upon you. Similarly, discussion on the internet about Female Supremacy is an intellectual exchange or appeal—not an agenda to convert.

I’m aware of those in the world who have attempted to legislate pro-Female agendas under the guise of Feminist interest, working as members of parliament in various governments. I’m aware of the Women’s rights activists going overboard in heckling and aggressive public demonstration. I’m aware of a general taint of misandry in the media. Does this mean we should lay this on the doorstep of all who believe in Female Supremacy?  No. The spectrum of believers is just too wide and too diverse, and most of us would rather talk than take by force, unlike the opposite of Female Supremacy, that being the painfully well known application of Male Supremacy.

With that said, I would ask the reader which sex in the world has the higher record in attempting to force their beliefs on the opposite sex? The last I saw, Women weren’t running a mirror image of the Taliban, or attempting to indoctrinate beliefs of sex superiority through age-old religious practices. When men make the claim that Female Supremacists are attempting to subvert society and enslave them all, perhaps their fear of that idea says more about them than it does us. Could it be a matter of collective projection?

The Female Supremacy I know does not seek to indoctrinate all people into its beliefs, nor does it seek the indiscriminate submission of all men. It is by choice people come to this way of life, which is one of many in the world’s marketplace of ideas. Deal with it.

Myth 8: Female Supremacists believe Females are superior to males in all things.

Much like the previous myth, this notion is an easily dissected straw man (or Woman). Surely, on average, men are physically stronger than Women. I have no interest in lugging out my old refrigerator, though I have far more in a man carrying me out of a burning building than a Woman. Men, on average, tend to be taller than Women. Why jump to snag that apple when you can ask your man to reach up and pick it? Men, on average, tend to be more physically aggressive than Women. While I know there certainly are warrior Women in the world, I feel much safer with male protectors on average when out and about.

I hope the above words begin to point out the more serious truth that the Female Supremacy I know finds males considerably useful and wanted; it does not seek to eliminate men, but involve them, intimately, through their complementary natural abilities in a productive synergy with Women for the betterment of the species and the world itself. With that in mind, the Female Supremacy I know acknowledges the worth in men and harnesses it productively, not destructively.

Myth 9: All Women who profess Female Supremacy are liars and cheaters exploiting the fantasy to make a quick dime out of men.

As with many of the popular assumptions and complaints in this article, this myth is not without some thread of truth. There are indeed many charlatans wearing the robes of Female Supremacy. Cynical, deceitful and sociopathic, clever but unscrupulous teen-agers and twenty-somethings (and beyond) discover the need in men to practice and believe in the supremacy of Women, but instead of rising to and embodying the source of that need, they carve out a niche market for themselves, pouting arrogantly and flipping the bird as cartoons devised for little more than profit. They fulfill the image of haughty Female dominance with all the illusory qualities of hollow seduction, demanding money, gifts and praise with BDSM trappings du jour. Their kind tends to be recognizable by the viral and embarrassingly predictable patterns of words that precede them, such as “worm”, “lowly pig”, “human ATM”, “sissy bitch”, and “humiliatrix”, among many others.

At one time, these approaches were fairly novel for bold pioneers in the world of industrializing (serving) the male sex drive. With the explosion of the internet, phone sex services clustered in the back of monthly Hustler magazines had their clientele slowly siphoned away by girl next door types advertising on the internet with live video cams.

Soon, the market became saturated, and the competition incited further delving into the psychology of male fantasy—or at least the illusion of interest in it. At this point it’s quite important to note that many men, being suckered and swindled of their cash in pursuit of their sensual idiocy, full well deserve being raked over the coals by a narcissistic teenager with no intent of offering a thread of reality, or a so-called “pro-Domme” who offers sessions at $300.00 per-hour, along with a lengthy menu of temporary simulations to sate his libido.

Sincere explorations of Female dominance turned sour over the market of pretense surrounding keywords like Female Supremacy. For many men seeking perhaps the hint of something real, all that was offered was a maze of illusions, and while it is understandably disheartening, it is easy to see how we got to where we are with the jaundiced view of it.

That said, being labeled as something little more than an overglorified sex worker is an affront to those Women who are the real deal. That is the challenge facing those Female Supremacists who do put themselves out on the internet and openly discuss their lives or express their beliefs; by virtue of association with bad company parroting the most shallow portrayals of the philosophy, they are written off as birds of the same feather. This is ultimately a case of people assuming much and imagining very little.

There is of course another root of this phenomenon: a sour and resentful element that can’t help insinuating the notion that strong, truly dominant Women who keep a stable of male admirers and servants are overglorified prostitutes with whips. I tend to suspect the source of this sentiment is little more than a smug pedestrian mentality that fears or detests the power of Female sexuality.

Oddly enough, the idea D/s minded Female Supremacists are all unscrupulous prostitutes is sometimes shared by so-called “submissive” men themselves, who tend to be cursed with forever looking from the outside in upon relationship ideals they express coveting, but never find themselves having—namely, those of Female Supremacy-based relationships. Some, it would seem, share a love-hate relationship with the practices of the lifestyle and every Woman through which it ever takes form. However these men came to form their beliefs—either through preconceptions or experiences—their biases seem further cemented through a chronic cynicism that inevitably builds roads to self-fulfilling prophecies. Beware of these types, and the infection of their negativity.

Myth 10: All Women practicing Female Supremacy are misandrous and egocentric narcissists.

I suppose it’s quite easy to draw from a few examples to arrive upon that conclusion. The problem is many of these examples come from BDSM-inspired literature catering to the masturbatory psychodrama—and the related fetish fantasy caricatures—so popular among men. This is not to say that some Female Supremacists aren’t narcissistic and utterly misandrous, but as with most absolutes in a world population of 6.8 billion, they are bound to be wrong, and this one definitely is.

I could go on about myself as a Female Supremacist, bearing witness to the warm and empathetic qualities of my personality, but I’ll keep from ruining my preciously frigid diva image online. So perhaps it may be best to speak of the Women I have met who believe in Female Supremacy, Women who have been warm, highly intelligent and overall miraculously decent human beings, exuding an air of confidence, sophistication and grace. They are strong, beautiful Alpha Females who have their lives in order. They know what they want and they get it with the tools nature gave them, and they do so unapologetically.

The men I have met who believe in Female Supremacy have all been tremendously talented, intelligent, thoughtful and generous; they seek Female-led relationships out of strong convictions in the Female as the most balanced and capable sex to lead. They arrived upon these ideas not from their understanding of the opposite sex being limited to lad magazines or SM porn sites, but through life experience and deep inward reflection.  They choose Female leaders who inspire them, challenge them, teach them, and ultimately make them better men. Such things would be fairly difficult for man hating egotists far too in love with themselves.

Myth 11: Female Supremacy is strictly a psychosexual phenomenon, and is intellectually untenable.

Anyone with respect for actual intellectual discussion will note that psychosexuality is in itself an area of vast intellectual interest; it has in fact consumed a great deal of our time, socially, artistically and academically. What draws men, weak and powerful, to a state of submission to Women? How do Women initiate and reinforce their dominance over the male psyche? To what lengths will men go in the pursuit of a coveted Woman, and what will they do to keep Her satisfied? How might male submission and psychosexuality be related to the biological imperative in an age when the axiom of the socially dominant male is waning?

I’ll stop there, and hope the point is obvious: how is the point illustrated above not an intellectual or rational subject? There really is no greater study than that of the most complex organization of matter we know: the human brain and the labyrinthine formulas for its motives.

Of course, if the intent of naysayers is simply to question how one arrives upon the precept of Female Supremacy by analytical or statistical means, the argument for Female Supremacy is up for the challenge. Comparative studies of the male and Female brain, the complexities of mosaicism in Female genetics, the staggering social effects of male violence, the overall behavioral differences between males and Females in social organization, and the rising health of societies that empower Women all might be good places to start.

Myth 12: Believing in the supremacy of Women over men is the same as believing in the supremacy of white people over black people.

This is a cleverly rhetorical statement, often employed to incite our collective disgust over racial discrimination. On its surface, the average reader may find this statement morally analogous, but it’s really little more than a bad company fallacy. The fact we use supremacy to describe our beliefs and practices is considered abhorrent to some due to the existence of racist groups which use supremacy arguments. This is an emotional, hot button analogy, and not a rational one, if one were to consider the differences between this group or that.

Female Supremacy, by its very name, concerns Female and male—two very different groups, not creatively imaginative ones as seen in ethnic or racial supremacy arguments. For instance, how does skin or hair color compare to structural differences between male and Female brains? How do comparisons over skin color correlate to provable differences between Female and male in aggression and violence, genetic composition, or biological roles / functions in reproduction?

The answer quite simply is they are not analogous arguments at all, but that fact doesn’t keep some from continuing to make the associations out of desire for shock value and rhetorically appealing to a populism.

Myth 13: Female Supremacy and Female superiority mean the same thing.

Some treat the two above phrases, supremacy and superiority, as synonymous, but they’re really not if you consider the definitions closely and in context to how they are used in the lifestyle. Superior generally means higher in grade, rank or amount. Superiority is the quality or condition of being superior. Supreme means highest in rank or authority, and supremacy means a state or condition of being superior to all others in authority.

When I say I believe in Female Supremacy, I am essentially saying that I advocate Women being superior to men in matters of authority. While I believe Females are superior to males in many ways, I am not saying Women are superior to men in all things (see myth 8). Supremacy, as it is often used with Female Supremacy, is about higher authority and power. Female Supremacists therefore believe Females should in general be the leaders, and males should follow.

In closing with this last myth, I would finally add this: before writing off those who believe in a way of life as this or that, it behooves everyone to consider how well versed they are in the very lifestyle they condemn so much, for it stands to reason that one who is not and never has been a part of the lifestyle they detest so much should perhaps avoid the practice of lecturing about it so negatively. Intellectual disagreement and debate, no matter how passionate, is never unwelcome; it is in fact a helpful exercise for both parties. I do understand supremacy arguments are hot buttons for many people. To a degree I can accept vehement resistance to such subjects, as long as it’s intelligent.  It is the pointless anger, outrageous caricaturizing, and purposefully sowed misinformation which has perpetuated unnecessary negativity over the subject of Female Supremacy.

With that in mind, I hope what I’ve written has helped to counter unfortunate truisms about the belief of Female Supremacy and the practice of Female-led relationships.  I look forward to and welcome any comments readers may have, as usual.

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Redesign Imminent

January 23rd, 2010

The members area of My site will be getting the much-needed rebuild today. If you experience difficulties accessing this area today or tonight, this will no doubt be why. As with the public side when it was reworked, please report any problems you see; it’s always highly appreciated. We’ve zapped a lot of gremlins from the older site structure, but when doing so, sometimes you end up with new ones. C’est la vie!

One of the biggest changes will be the member side journal, which has been rebuilt as a blog instead of static html. A new “worship” page has been introduced, though it’s not quite ready for viewing yet. Outside of that, all other content on the member side is complete. With that in mind, we’ll be getting to some much-needed updates, soon. There’s plenty of new photography and videography of Me and My slaves to put up; My life is a constant matrix of such images. With the tyranny of the site redesign soon behind us, business can proceed as usual at SaharahEve.com, thank goodness.

In other news, I feel a new essay from Yours Truly coming on, but I plan to write it here on the public blog instead of the private side. The subject? Let’s just say I’ve been reading a lot of antithetical and downright cynical viewpoints expressed about Female Supremacy lately. I think it’s time to go on record in bringing up a few key counterpoints to many popular arguments against it. When My muse strikes Me just right, I’ll post My condensed thoughts here and encourage commentary, of course.

Deforestation

January 7th, 2010

I recently watched the Michael Jackson movie This Is It, which was based on the rehearsal of a concert that never came. In one of the themes for a song, a little native girl is shown trying to escape a bulldozer that’s destroying the land she lives in. This scene in particular reminded Me of Cameron’s movie, which presents a similar vignette.

It occured to me that these movies are really onto something. Certainly, we’ve heard about a myriad environmental issues, from green house gases to the proposed grove of windmills on Nantucket Sound. And we’ve also heard about the rain forest, but more specifically, it’s really—truly—about time deforestation is put back into the spot light. If things don’t change soon, we will be finishing up some very dark work humanity has started. With no forests like the Amazon, our ecosytem will suffer irreversible damage, and we, as living creatures on this planet, will certainly feel the impact.

Thanks to the increasing demands for resources and capitalist interests, world deforestation is increasing at a staggering pace. What was once two basic needs for land clearing: crops and livestock, has now extended to the demands of a highly industrialized and global humanity. Economic globalization is hammering down on our forests from population growth, poverty, greed, rise in agricultural and lumber needs, infrastructure expansion, and so on. The consequences of this destruction is both environmental and social.

Deforestation is responsible for soil erosion, water scarcity, flooding and drought, in addition to climate change where upward of 20 percent of global carbon emissions are emitted into the air from deforestation alone, some studies say. Though the effect of rotting vegetation can produce coal in years ahead, this serves as little condolence to the indigenous tribes and settlers who have come to respect the land they depend upon. How stressful it must feel to have no control against their own government and the more influential countries who, having used up their own resources, now turn to your back yard to cut, burn and drill.

You can help stop this by supporting organizations who follow environmental friendly policies or by lending your support to advocates of land conservation. You can further help by being energy efficient. Don’t use electrical appliances for things you can easily do by hand, like opening cans. Save wire coat hangers and return them to the dry cleaners. Store food in re-usable containers, instead of plastic wrap or aluminum foil. Set your water heater at 130 degrees, and have your water heater insulated free of charge by your utility company. Turn your heat down and wear a sweater, or lower your thermostat by one degree per hour for every hour you’ll be away or asleep. Turn off the lights, TV, or other electrical appliances when you’re out of a room. You can find more ideas here at savetherainforest.org.

You can also help by sending your monetary donations here.

Site Redesign

January 6th, 2010

Within approximately a week, SaharahEve.com will be getting a mild face lift. Among the improvements will be a larger and easier to read layout due to more CSS integration, faster loading pages, and of course, more content. This blog itself will be embedded into the site much more efficiently. Some pages will go away, other news ones will appear. All site content will remain intact. No existing or future memberships will be interrupted or hindered during the transition, either. At least, that’s what My personal designer keeps assuring Me. If not, I’ll have another male to skewer, and of course, that means even more content. So however you look at it, I guess it’s a win / win situation. :-)

Avatar

December 22nd, 2009

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I recently had the pleasure of watching Avatar, the new groundbreaking film written and directed by the long absent Director James Cameron. There were plenty of things to like about this movie; the effects and world design, just to start. What impressed Me particularly about this effort were the many subtexts present in the story as it unraveled. No one can deny the film’s symbolic value to many of the issues facing us as humans today on Earth, or “The Dying World”, as it is referred to in the movie. Cameron makes astute points about the poison of corporate greed and rampant militarization, which can easily be applied to Western entanglement in the Middle East today (the region of which apparently experienced some scandal over this film) and the obvious arrogance of our major financial and commercial institutions. It serves easily as a parable of the plight of Native American tribes in early America. It has an unmistakable green message, too, reminding us of the value of nature, which is sacred to the Na’vi: the alien tribe of the film indigenous to the world of Pandora.

It is the imagery and culture behind this tribe of alien creatures that moved Me. Cameron’s insightful writing and directing shows us the good of what is for the greater part a matriarchal tribe. Princess Neytiri’s father is chief, but her Mother is the true oracle and leader of the tribe. Avatar depicts through the Na’vi an ideal balance between the sexes—one many of us no doubt idealize but as a species have perhaps lost long ago. In the Na’vi, we see males in a positive light; they are warriors and hunters that protect and provide alongside equally powerful huntresses. We see that with overall matrifocal leadership which aims to unite, advance and maintain life, male traits can be used for altruistic purposes which benefit the world.  Both sexes use their strengths in unison under the guidance of their culture. Among the invading humans, we see the evil of unchecked male aggression and greed, of how it destroys and divides—we see the chaos that greed and hostility creates, no matter how technologically advanced it is.

Or perhaps that’s just Me. Cameron is noted for saying there are many elements to the movie that will appeal to a wide audience. There is action, adventure, love and tremendously visual fantasy, indeed. That aside, I could not help but notice the Female/male message moral of the film too, along with others. It occurred to Me in watching Avatar that I liked the Na’vi males; they represented an honesty, strength, nobility and pureness that seems missing from men in our age. Well of course, you might say; it’s just a movie about an alien world. It’s not good to base one’s feelings about reality on a movie. I tend to believe, however, that even the alien elements to these stories are really about us. Granted, the visions in Avatar come from a particular writer and director with an army of animators, art directors and stage hands. This effort, however, hits notes that are close to Me, and I suspect others will feel the same way too. Of course, you could just ditch the philosophy and enjoy the visuals alone. That works too!

Sometimes male submission can be a little shocking…

November 25th, 2009

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I get an occasional question about “the device” I’m using on My males from time to time. I suppose it’s worth asking about how I can summon pain with a little remote I hold in My hand. Quite fittingly, what I lock around the sacks of My slaves is nothing more than a shock collar for dogs. I have found using shock collars this way is tremendously beneficial, outside of providing Me plenty of push-button amusement. For instance, wrapping the device around the sack of your male and showing him you have the remote set to give the highest level of pain makes him stumble over himself in order to please, for fear of being zapped in his most vulnerable place.

I sometimes have men wear these devices under their pants when in public with Me. I keep the remote in My purse should the need to correct arise. Though My males are always trained to pamper, spoil and obey Me, I find the shock collar serves as an extra added incentive that puts a little more pep in their step. I honestly can’t think of a better place to correct a male than in this way; it punishes his maleness directly and brings about so much pain he’s likely to not make the same mistake again, and all this with very little effort on My part so I can spend more time enjoying life.

In that ideal contemporary matriarchal society I tend to dream about often, it would be a wonderful idea to somehow have an intricate shocking mechanism surgically implanted in the testicles of slaves, which only responds to the frequencies of their owners’ remotes. The dormant existence of the device couldn’t disrupt the production of sperm, of course, and would be safe enough to use so as to not cause long-term health problems through EMF.

Of course, that does bring to mind what happens internally to the male reproductive system when direct shock is administered through this method I use. I do consider what I’m doing to the sperm cells of the men I correct. Poor little tadpole critters. I suppose since breeding with My slaves usually isn’t on the top of My list, it’s not much of a concern at all. Bottom line? If you are serving Me and you value your little sperm factory, do what I say—especially considering the low-tech method I haven’t mentioned here but often use too: more than one swift and well-placed kick to the groin.

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Mail Bag: Too Mean?

November 16th, 2009

Dear Ms. Saharah Eve,

Knowing about your site for a long time now, I finally got the courage to join.  I have to say I enjoy Your site a lot. All Your writings on Female Supremacy put a shinier light on things I’ve always felt since I was in my 20s. I love and admire all the images and videos too, but I have a question about Your content that’s been nagging at me for about a long time now, and it’s basically this. Are You always as mean all the time as You are in most of Your videos? There’s a bunch of videos where you can see you’re having a lot of fun but there seems so much more where you’re strict and militant.  The reason I ask is that I have always felt Female Supremacy creates more harmony than violence and discord. You show a very thoughtful person behind Your website, but some of Your videos seem so violent that it sometimes seems to contrast too harshly against what You convey in Your writings. I wonder what You’d have to say about that.

William


Dear William,

I do understand your take on the contrast somewhat. It’s true that Female Supremacy does create more harmony between the sexes, but we have to keep in mind that this is achieved through strict male discipline, among other things. Those “other things” don’t convert very well on a site like this. After all, this is a pay for content website. The loving, nurturing side, though it can be expressed in some ways through this medium, isn’t what really draws eyeballs to a pay site. Let’s face it: the image of cruel Female authority resonates far better with an online audience, and for good reason too. It’s fascinating to watch a Woman discipline Her male(s). It challenges us on one level, being that we are still living within a society that inherits patriarchal thinking. If but for no other reason than morbid fascination alone, it’s intriguing to see Women pushing and slapping men around in a grandiose reversal of sorts. And, on another level, it’s viscerally entertaining to watch slaves being punished, and it taps into the natural human tendency to find fascination in cruelty. Then, of course, there’s some who add to that a love for Female Supremacy and the context it provides to the harsh treatment of male slaves. That certain potpourri is a more advanced appreciation for the sadism displayed here, for lack of a better way of putting it.

That being said, I wouldn’t want to give the impression that the videos you see on My site are always premeditated for effect only. The simple fact is, more than half of the content on My site is documenting service, training or punishment in some way. What one tends not to see on My site is the gentle guidance, nurturing and everyday drudgery that wouldn’t be so enticing to watch online for most people. The pleasures of those things are better lived out than watched in pixels. It’s often difficult to get these sorts of things across on film and make them worthwhile for entertainment purposes, but who knows? Perhaps it might be worth giving it a shot. I’m curious what others think about this.

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Saharah’s Enlightened Despotism

November 7th, 2009

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My slave Nanshakh has made another wonderful portrait of his Mistress, replete with a coffle of naked male victims all chained to each other in a very fitting way. Those familiar with My doctrine will find the image quite fitting, for it’s no mystery that in My perfect world, men would be chattel to Women, and little more. As you can see, I’m featured clad in leather here. Long-time members will note that I’m not much of a leatherist at all, but I think the outfit makes sense in this woodsy setting, and doesn’t look too bad on Me at all. The image to the left is a small preview of only a portion. Get the full version on Nanshakh’s site; it’s definitely worth seeing.

I’m enjoying the talents of this male I have inherited. He’s going to stay busy, busy.

United Way Fundraiser

October 31st, 2009

I want to thank those of you who were kind enough to participate in the United Way video auction held at the beginning of this month. You have all touched Me deeply with your participation in helping those in need; your contributions have helped to make this world a better place. Each and every one of you, regardless of your donation amount, will receive a full version copy of the belly dance video. You can expect an email from My web designer with the attached video in mpeg format by the end of today, with a personal message from Me.

Help Children

October 8th, 2009

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Click here to donate: https://volunteer.united-e-way.org/cwim/donate/

Your contribution will be recorded and compared at the end of the driver. Thank you for helping Me enrich the lives of those in need!

Immortalized in Art.

September 18th, 2009

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I have had the fortune of receiving the adoration of a new and very talented male creature, Nanshakh. I have become his muse and Mistress…as it should be. First in a line of visual tributes—tributes he will be laboring over for some time—is his new excellent piece entitled Here She Comes. As I’ve said before, Nanshakh has a very clear vision of My ideal utopia, or at least My ideal Italian Villa! Male slaves, treated as nothing more than animals at My disposal…forced to live in cramped and joyless holes of concrete within a gated pen set away from My home when not in use. I like how the humble and bruised mutts come out of their holes to bow their heads as I walk by. You can see they fear Me yet adore Me at the same time; and how they would fear the sound of My heels! Join his site to see the entire vision, enlarged. You’ll agree it is quite a creation!

As an aside, I like his sense of fashion. The yellow dress and matching heels are perfect for My coloring. :-)

Little pleasures bestowed upon humble slaves.

August 19th, 2009

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I’ve recently found a magnificent artist who epitomizes Female domination and male enslavement.  His images  have captured precisely what I envision in My ideal utopia to such a degree I begin to wonder whether we were hatched from the same egg, lol.  It was recently brought to My attention that this other image in particular reminded one of My slaves of Me. I admit, the overall look and attitude are a fair resemblance.

I love how the heads of all Her naked slaves are shaven, stripping away individuality in many of the pictures. So very ideal, in an ideal world. Point your browser to http://www.nanshakh.com, and you will see captivating images of beautiful, ornately dressed Women being served by their naked, nameless, bruised, and pathetically interchangeable male disciples / victims. *Evil Grin

Mail Bag: Does Female Supremacy deserve bad rap?

August 14th, 2009

Hi Saharah,

Thank you for representing Female supremacy in a positive and interesting light. I have noticed that there are a lot of different “takes” on what FS is, many of them really negative. It seems to me a lot of people tend to think FS is about little twits flipping the bird on cam and demanding money, or man-hating militant feminism. I was wondering what you had to say about that, and where you are on the subject of Female supremacy. You’re obviously different, but what is the underlying philosophy that sets you apart from the “noise”? Further, what you do think about the [often] strong negative feelings FS brings up in people? I would love to see you put it in your own words.

Fiona


Thank you for the note, Fiona. I know I wrote to you already on my previous blog, but I’ll take the opportunity to expand a little.

I understand not all people wish to subscribe to the philosophy of Female supremacy, and that is perfectly fine by Me. For Me, however, Female Supremacy represents a personal set of convictions which I and those that serve Me choose to celebrate and live by. Though there are many ways it can be interpreted, Female supremacy’s core ethos is centered around the Female and Her many positive social and biological attributes. If you think it’s about extreme hatred of men, I’d say it’s time to expand your thinking on the subject. If it was just all about hating and exploiting men, I’d identify as a misandrist and leave it at that.

But for many Women, Female supremacy isn’t—and never has been—about hating men. If one pays close enough attention to what is espoused in Female supremacist thinking (or at least, the Female supremacy I know), one sees the chance for greater unity and harmony between the sexes. Some are equally shocked to learn men are valued and even loved in Female supremacy relationships. So why the confusion? I think people misinterpret Female supremacy as championing hatred for men as it often incorporates the principles of genetic / social superiority of Women into its ideas. For some, supporting FS in this way is just too controversial and bigoted. Personally, I see no reason to take offense to the genetic advantages Women have over men, or the statistical evidence that makes it clear Women are more socially responsible, commit less crimes, etc.

For some, certain biological and social facts are important to them in shaping their beliefs about the supremacy of Women. I include Myself in that demographic and therefore encourage embracing the differences between the sexes for what they are and focus on how some of these differences can compliment one another. Bottom line: if these facts don’t seem valid or important to others, I invite them to simply move on, and that’s that.

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SaharahEve.com is here, finally.

August 10th, 2009

The new site is OPEN. Everyone who is already a member of MistressDolly.com can rest assured their log-ins and passwords will be in good standing once this website is fully functioning and taking new members again. If you were hoping to sign up recently at saharaheve.com, you can do so now.

Saharah

Mailbag: What are you? No, seriously…

August 8th, 2009

Dear Saharah:

Since you’re such a unique personality in Femdom, I was wondering how you identify yourself when talking about what you do to others who aren’t familiar with fetish or D/s. Would you call yourself a dominatrix, a prodomme, a Mistress or something else? I sometimes feel none of these ideas really hit you square on.

Respectfully,
Kevin


Dear Kevin,

Great question. I’ve been waiting for an opportunity to expound a little more about this subject, and you’ve provided one. Truthfully, I don’t see myself as fitting into any of those categories. First, while I do have a “fetish” website, I don’t top men for money as a professional dominatrix does. Don’t get me wrong—I don’t have a problem with that at all. Plenty of Women are doing just that and making a reasonable dime off it (you can learn more about that in this article or watching this video on youtube.com), but being paid by a “client” for fantasy fulfillment is just not something I find appealing for a number of reasons. “Dominatrix” just seems a bit dated and campy, not to mention too thigh-high and officer hat for me. I like “Mistress”, but again, popular consumption of the word just leaves me divorced from using it seriously in public.

Alpha Female, on the other hand, feels good to me, because all it really implies is that I tend to be dominant in my relations. It doesn’t mean I’m a top service projection, a prostitute for hire, someone’s extramarital interest of kinky friend between the sheets. It rings with an authorative “pack animal” status to me, so that’s why I tend to embrace it the most. For this reason, “Dominant Woman” would equally suffice.

I’d just like to add that though labels can be very helpful, we should never just see dominant Women (or submissive men, for that matter) as strictly one-dimensional beings, summed up perfectly in whatever moniker you (or they) choose. Labels are essential in communicating ideas and information, but they are just a starting point in referencing an aspect of personality or status. Don’t forget the human behind them, boys.

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Saharah Eve

July 10th, 2009

As you may have noticed, My website is going through a name change; I am no longer carrying the Mistress Dolly namesake. As of September first, the url to this site will be officially changed to SaharahEve.com. What does that mean for preexisiting members of My site? Not much at all, outside of seeing a different web address in their browser windows. Member information will be kept safe during the transition, and all content previously on MistressDolly.com will be fully migrated over to SaharahEve.com.

Why the name change? I have felt for some time now that a change in image and direction was needed—a change that reflects more accurately who I am and what I’m really about. As BDSM and fetish lifestyles become trendier, many of the words used within them have gained far too much power of invention. The word “Mistress” means little to the very subculture that uses it so much. The idea of consensual slavery itself has become somewhat of a t-shirt; nothing more than a synonym for a flimsy, conditional servitude, tossed around as easily as a coin or cast aside with a gesture. I hold value to terms like Mistress and slave; they should be spoken with respect and with the proper ethos in mind. Far too often the concepts behind the words are interchanged for fantasy roleplay. That’s fine for others, but not for Me. That’s why I’ve decided to step away from being known to the world as “Mistress” so and so. Yes, I am indeed a Mistress, but to address Me as such is a privilege, not a general form of address for the entire world to use. Saharah Eve speaks to My origins and character; it is a name that is sacred to Me and acceptable for the public to know Me by.

M/s, D/s, Fetish, BDSM and many other terms people have devised to describe the circle of activities we have come to loosely know as “dominance and submission” seem to fit less and less as ways to describe what I enjoy and do. Put simply, I am an Alpha Female with heavy leanings toward Female Supremacy. I enjoy enslaving men and turning them into dogs. It’s not what I do just on Saturday nights or to turn a buck. It’s not a role I play for My “boyfriend”. It’s what I enjoy. It’s what feels right to Me, truly.

And speaking of dogs, you may have noticed the “dog trainer” subtitle on My entry page. This is without a doubt an indicator of the direction I am taking on the site, as it reflects more accurately what I do with My slaves. I find the males of both human and canine species are markedly similar in a lot of ways, but I won’t go on about that here. You can read more about that in the articles or media I post within My site.

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Dog Training Video I: SaharahEve.com

July 7th, 2009
Saharah Eve introduces the benefits of human male dog training.

First in a series of human dog training videos, I give the viewer an introduction to the key philosophies behind converting men into dog-like pets. The fundamentals of psychological conditioning and physical cues for commands are covered with simple demonstrations of punishment and reward. You can access the video here (membership required).